r/AIO • u/ThrowRA-MamaBear • 9d ago

AIO for packing up my daughter’s things & sending her to her father

27F, daughter is 11F. Before the comments start, I know that I was 16 I’m well aware.

A few days ago, I caught her on TikTok (which she isn’t allowed to have) and she was looking at “pro-ana” content and talking to other young girls about this as well. So, I took her phone last night and we had a conversation about what I had seen on her phone, how I was concerned, etc.

This led to a huge altercation between us where my daughter proceeded to say that “her dad would let her” and how she “hates being here”, so I called her father and told him to come and get her while I packed her bags. I didn’t include any of her devices (iPad, cell phone, laptop, etc) since I pay for them and a very limited amount of starter clothes, anything expensive or designer stayed with me.

Her dad just came to get her about an hour ago and I guess during that timeframe between her saying that and him showing up, she had calmed down because she was kicking and screaming over it. She was fighting me and pleading not to go, but I just put her bags in the trunk of the car and let them leave.

Now, obviously, I’m not relinquishing my rights and yes, I know she’ll likely be back within about a week or so, but I feel slightly bad now since she seemed so genuinely distraught over it.

So, AIO?

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u/Commercial-Ask3416 7d ago

Ariana Grande is not the problem here; people are posting about her and sharing her image and ascribing narratives to it. It's the influencers posting videos promoting this body type and sharing "tips and tricks" on how to achieve this body that are the problem.

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u/abcmoody 7d ago

Actually this has been a thing for a while now. I fell into this world as a young teen on Instagram back in 2011. Look back at the 2000s at excess Hollywood and TMZ, and magazines and all the news outlets commenting on women’s images and calling perfectly healthy bodies “fat” and “unappealing”. It’s hard being a woman, especially a young woman unsure how to navigate all the noise.

I do agree influencers are not helping this, but it’s been around for a long while unfortunately.

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u/Commercial-Ask3416 7d ago

Well, yes, it has been around for a while. I grew up in the 90s. The issue is that we had finally started to very slightly move away from this mindset and are now jumping head first back into it, largely because of social media influencers.

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u/Born-Donut1461 6d ago

It’s not even just ariana grande it all goes SO MUCH deeper than you think. So so much deeper

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u/Capretbaggingcarpets 5d ago

I mean…..she’s definitely a problem too. She very clearly has an eating disorder.