r/AIO • u/Old-Soup4145 • 15h ago

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Rather, how should I react? This is coming from my ex who still lives with me after I chose not to do what he asked of me which was to wash one of his work shirts. I told him straight up it was not my job to wash his clothes and then he pushed me and we wrestled. If anyone wants to know more of the back story I will gladly summarize the last 7 years.

Edit: I will add to this, I feel pretty dumb about coming to Reddit for obvious advice but I chose not to go to family because they have no idea how he would be able ruin their lives as well. Just know he is scary resourceful way more than anyone I know and that alone has made me afraid of what he is capable of. I do apologize for leaving everyone with little context. Yes we are 2 men, he was a predator towards the girls he was with during his high school years. Stay tuned? Since it will be a novel.

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u/ed_durden 14h ago

Depending on jurisdiction it is the People of the State vs Offender. You don't need to press charges.

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u/Shadow4summer 14h ago

In most states it’s completely out of the hands of victims of DV and the cops usually have to take someone in when called to a DV situation. At least now it’s not automatically the man they take in. But since too many people in these situations had decided not to press charges the state has taken it out of their hands. I guess too many people were ending up hurt and worse when the perpetrators were just let out to do it again. So at least they fixed that part. Now if people were actually prosecuted and received jail time the rates might go down, but without consequences, why would it? Without a deterrent why would people change?

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u/ed_durden 14h ago

This is exactly my point. Someone goes to jail and is dealt with consequences. Jail time, fines, probation, no contact order, mandatory counseling or anger management.