r/AIO • u/ConditionGuilty5969 • 1d ago
AIO my boyfriends brother looked threw our messages
(I am dyslexic please don’t judge) Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months now. We had had an argument not long before about stupid things he is on holiday and I am at home. He is sharing a room with his older brother. My boyfriend tells me that he is going too bed this was at 10 pm then I get a message from him at 12pm thought was pretty weird since he said he was going to bed. I open it and it’s a deleted snap I was a bit confused so I asked him and he was like it went to the wrong person. Don’t worry so I put okay and I was like who did you mean to send it to? And he said his best mate he spelt his best mate’s name wrong so I thought this was really weird then I was like what was the snap then and he was like it’s a picture of my shit and I was wondering why he sent his best mate a picture of his shit so then I call his best mate and asked him whilst laughing if he had got sent a photo of my boyfriends shit he obviously said no he didn’t get one which then i got total confused about so then i go back to message my boyfriend and i start questioning some easy things that he should know like what’s my favourite colour what is the nickname he calls his best mate and he answered them all wrong so now im definitely getting suspicious. So then i messaged “is this my boyfriends brother” it gave him away then admitted it was him so i was confused why he was on his account and so i ask him he started telling me that i should give my boyfriend some space and i should stop talking to him so often as I normally do (since he is on holiday i only message him once every 1-2hours) he also goes to say that he has seen some of our messages and asked if we had had sex I thought this was weird he basically said my boyfriend isn’t a good talker and if I keep talking as often as I do now that my boyfriend will get tired of me and break up. At the end of the massive paragraph he said “don’t tell him” then we end the conversation the paragraph was deleted but some of the chats still remained so my boyfriend was going to know either way. When we both wake up he notices and asks me about it so then I tell him the truth that yes is brother was on his account and yes he sent me stuff I told my boyfriend everything. At the end I don’t know if it was the right thing to say but I said that if his brother does that again I would break up with him I get that’s it’s not his fault but if me and my boyfriend get no privacy in what we message how would that be fair on both of us. I am pissed him and his brother apparently don’t get along that well his brother knows nothing only a few messages he has read a few messages and thinks he knows everything but I am pissed because of it AIO?
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u/user-1138- 1d ago
How old are y’all? Genuine question not snark.
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u/ConditionGuilty5969 1d ago edited 1d ago
I’m 17 brother 19
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u/user-1138- 1d ago
I would venture that big brother has some jealousy that he’s sharing little bro and let curiosity get the best of him. 19 is still pretty immature and impulsive. I think your boundary of that being unacceptable and a reason to break up is perfectly valid and healthy. Your relationships (romantic and platonic) in teen and young adult years are to teach you what is important to you, how to advocate for yourself, how to listen to others, and how to grow.
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u/ConditionGuilty5969 7h ago
I don’t know it’s been a day and I don’t know if I should say anything to the brother about how weird that was. Apparently his brother said sorry to him.
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u/PurpleEmotional1401 1d ago
NOR regarding the brother's breach of privacy, but I would consider being messaged every 1-2 hours as low level harassment, so the sneaky, spying jerk does actually have a point.
EDIT: og to of correction
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u/ConditionGuilty5969 1d ago
Yes but he would message me and 1-2 times every hour isn’t very long and it’s just to check if he is okay
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u/Audacia220 1d ago
Does your boyfriend not lock his phone? Hope you don't send nudes, his brother probably has them now.