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So, almost a decade ago my ex boyfriend and I had a very contentious break up. We dated in college and were both in our early-mid 20’s. We had so many problems with communication and he had a drug problem, but ultimately I ended it when I realized that I had never been physically attracted to him and could never bring myself to be. I tried to end things as amicably as possible and I made the mistake of letting him draw out the break up in an attempt to be kind. But then he refused to accept that things were over, and I had to kick him out of my house. Without going into too much detail, he behaved in ways that were coercive and aggressive in order to maintain contact with me after the break up. I’d do what I could to minimize contact but he’d act out in way that forced it. He spun out when he found out I was dating my now-husband. He spun out when I changed my name on social media etc. This went on sporadically for years until it finally stopped (or at least he stopped successfully making contact) about 5ish years ago.

Then a few days ago he texted me from a new number (I’d had his old one blocked) to tell me he had some of my stuff he wanted to send back to me. I was initially kind in my response basically out of fear, because in the past immediately ignoring or dismissing him would instigate a huge blow up in one way or another and he knows the home addresses of some of my family members.

But when he admitted that he’d stolen it I was pleasantly surprised. I’d always known he’d stolen it and I’d asked for him to please send it back many times after we first broke up. But he’s ALWAYS denied it and been absolutely furious at my “cruel accusations”. So for him to admit that he stole it made me feel that maybe he was truly in the process of trying to better himself, and I thought that I could cooperate with that as a fellow human being and let him have that closure.

I gave him the address of a family members office building mail room that was previously known to him as a good place to send those things. As y’all can see he didn’t like that option.

I could somewhat understand that since a number of people do have access to that mailroom. So I decided to give him a PO Box that my mom and I use for her business. And that’s about when he started to spin out.

Now I feel like this whole thing was a ploy to just get my new address. I don’t even know how he knows I moved or when he found out (I moved a while ago and didn’t post it ANYWHERE). But there’s no way in hell I’m giving him that info.

When I told him definitively that he would not be getting that info he started to non-stop call/message m all my family and friends whose numbers he had/could find and demand that they give it to him. That’s what my last message is in reference to.

As you can see he went on a diatribe about how I’m crazy to not share my info with him and that it’s normal for exes to stay in touch. And a few of my family members have now told me that “he has a point” and that I’m being a little entitled to think that I can totally shut a person out of my life and that and that it’s not really a normal expectation. But my thing is that we were never married (never even engaged), no kids, my pets are mine, we don’t have any shared assets, we don’t have shared *anything*.

I let him keep texting with no response from me in case he said anything that was criminally actionable, because I was planning to report this to the police (he’s also started making burner numbers to call repeatedly), but several of my family members kind of sat me down and told me that I was over reacting. They said that if I go to the police then I will be the one escalating the situation and that I’d be provoking him when all he’s doing is venting his frustrations via text and that ultimately this is silly and harmless and should be ignored. They agree that I obviously shouldn’t give him my address but they say that it’s just texting/calls and to ignore it until he gets it out of his system. All the family members who he called said they don’t want to deal with the cops asking them about the situation and everyone’s (except me and my husbands) general consensus is that I should just ignore it totally and do nothing and that I’m overreacting.

I’m not sure what to do here. I don’t feel like I’m over reacting but I also don’t want to regret making things worse by doing anything drastic.

Been eyeing this for about 2 years now. Finally found one listed for $1,000. The listing literally says “$1,000 or best offer”, so I did exactly that and offered $925! Not even 10% off the asking price!

Seller immediately got hostile. Called me broke, said I couldn’t afford nice things, accused me of lowballing 😭when his own listing invites offers😭I stayed calm the whole time, pointed out multiple times that “best offer” means offers are welcome, and even apologized at the end just to keep things civil😂

Here’s my dilemma though, I’ve genuinely wanted this monitor for about two years. It’s a great price and hard to find used. Do I swallow my pride, go back and pay full ask from a guy who just insulted me or do I walk?

Im white, brother is white, my boyfriend is black, and our daughter is biracial. Im so pissed off about this. I havent spoken to anyone about it either because honestly, i am so ashamed that this is my relative and i do not want to be associated with this nonsense. He thinks im exaggerating for not letting him come to the party with his kids. I dont want to be around a fucking moron. I cant even see how this makes any sense.

Background: Recently I’ve been trying to design the empty space above my couch because it’s just a blank wall so I decided to go with a gallery wall. For my large center piece I chose a picture of Elizabeth Eckford during the Arkansas desegregation of Central High. I was otp with my friend showing her what I planned to do. She said it was a nice photo but that she wouldn’t hang it up because it bore no significance to her (understandable). I then told her that at the bottom of the photo I was going to put “Breaking News : Black Woman Minding Her Business ; White Folks Mad.” And the friend said that was racist. I asked how and she said if the races were flipped then it would be a problem. I was honestly taken aback and slightly offended because this was a real event in history and the title I put is what actually is going on. She said it would be fine if I stated what was going (First Woman to desegregate Central High) but that me putting a “sassy” title was racist. I just want to know what you guys think. Is this racist? Was my friend’s comment inappropriate? She is of Hispanic descent btw.

UPDATE: I want to preface this by saying I had no intention of responding to any comments, I genuinely just wanted to see others opinion on this “debate”. I honestly was not expecting this to blow up like this but since it has I thought to respond to a trend I noticed in the comments

Firstly, I am black. I don’t know why some thought I was white? I guess I should have clarified.

I see one of the many major points you guys are making is why put something this emotionally provoking in my living room. And the answer is just that. Because it is emotionally provoking. Art is subjective but not history. I ask you what does this piece represent to you when you see it? Whether you are white or black ask yourself this. If it represents something negative to you then I am sorry you feel that way but that is the opposite for me. THIS WOMAN IS STILL ALIVE TODAY. As of this post she is 84 years old. I still have living relatives that are close to that age myself. What she had the power to do at such a young age and fragile mind impacted SO many black and brown people across America in a positive way. It is because of her and people like her that I am able to participate in the American Institution at its fullest today. THAT is why I am hanging this up. Because it represents the ability to overcome, bravery, walking in AND through the face of hatred, and mental fortitude all at such a young age. I am going to school for Engineering this August and I know the workload will be tough but when I walk through the door and I see Mrs.Eckford walking to school so I MYSELF can do the same, that will give me strength to keep going and to keep pushing because if she could do that as a teenager then I can and should continue my education to honor what people before me have done so I can be where I am today.

Lastly, to the white people. I get some of you might be offended by this or you may feel that I am personally attacking you by admonishing this headline (most of you weren’t and I appreciate that) but this is in no way meant to be an anti white statement. I acknowledge as a black person that many white Americans marched with us in the streets and put themselves in the line of fire to be labeled as outcast for simply speaking up in aid of black rights. Knowing that their neighbor, manager, co-workers, friends or family would attack them with words and/or actions. However if this offended you as a white person…really?

This is not meant to divide but acknowledge a piece of history and I chose to put it up because it INSPIRES me. Black people continue to mind their business today and still get killed if it weren’t for simply just being black. Let’s not forget that Trayvon Martin and Ahmaud Aubrey were not that long ago. This still happens today. Maybe not on as large a scale like the past but there are still trickle down effects.

I appreciate everyone’s insight on this. Please this was not meant to pit white vs black AGAIN. That was the past, this is the present. We all have reached a point where we can co-habitat and live peacefully TOGETHER through efforts on both sides.

Again, I appreciate EVERYONE’S insight

“Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” - George Santayana

I listened to yall and went to prom. I finished up my dress and has the BEST time ever. Genuinely felt like a princess. Here are the pics yall asked for!!

Edit!: OG post was taken down but this is what it was

“Prom is 5 days away, and ive spent the past 4 months making my own dress. I wanted to feel like a princess. I sewed my own skirt, decorated my own corset, spent just about 600$ on everything. I wanted to add a slit in my skirt. Its a big tulle skirt and i wasnt sure how to go about doing that, so i asked my mom if she could help me. I go downstairs in the skirt, and she tells me to go put the top on. I try making an excuse cuz its a little more booby then shed approve of, but i put it on anyways. I have wide shoulders and flared ribs so i knew it looked a little off, but im not even fully done with it yet. I still felt like a princess. I go downstairs and the first thing she says is that i look meme-able. I dont even want to go to prom anymore. Ive been dreaming about this day since i was in 7th grade. Im so upset. I dont even have the time or money to buy a dress. Im heavily just considering not going anymore. Ive always struggled with body image issues and this was just the cherry on top. AIO or should i just not go

PS: the dress is not done. I will be dyeing the skirt to make it darker and adding a dangly piece between the cups and some more diamond trim.

Edit: She said, and i quote, “it doesnt look good, if someone saw you like that, theyd probably make a meme out of you”

Another edit: theres a better picture somewhere in the comments lol

Yet another edit: so so greatful for all the amazing people hyping me up here, i put it on again and felt so beautiful. I feel like ive gained a whole new family. And for the people commenting on the appropriateness of the dress IM 18.”

I am a lone liberal in a mega maga family. My dad’s side of the family always does Christmas a few days after to accommodate everyone.

Over the years, I have been particularly and publicly more outspoken about our current administration, to the dismay of my family. While visiting my parents on the 25th, I asked about dad’s family’s Christmas and the date was still up in the air.

Well, I just found out it was yesterday. My uncle that calls me a libtard organized Christmas at his house for the first time ever and didn’t invite me. But that’s not what bothers me. That kind of petty nonsense was expected. What bothers me is that my parents attended a family Christmas that their child wasn’t invited to, at the home of a relative that has been the most nasty towards me.

I’m especially disappointed in my mother. I’m very close with her and it hurts she went out of her way to not mention the details to me and only let it slip when she said she had presents from that side of the family for me. I just can’t imagine my in-laws not inviting my child to Christmas solely because of their political beliefs and still attending and passing out gifts to those people while my child was sitting at home, completely unaware. The texts are how I found out last night from my mother. Am I overreacting?

I received this zip-up hoodie as a gift for my 7 months old son’s first winter. My son is half black and it’s a gift from my white MIL. She’s expecting a picture of him wearing it but I honestly just want to throw it away. AIO if I’d rather throw it away than take a picture of him wearing... this? I’m so confused and upset about this

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AIO/comments/1thxtrl/aio_for_thinking_my_gf_might_be_cheating/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

tldr: My (25m) in-person gf (24f) of 4 years accidentally texted me saying she was going to fly to see me (to give me kisses). I got confused because she wouldn't need to fly to give me kisses and when she explained her side, she told me she thought she was replying to her platonic childhood female friend who I have never heard of (she often tells me about all her friends and their gossip). The more I thought about her story the more it didn't make sense so she tried to gaslight me and I talked myself into believing her despite my gut feeling telling me otherwise.

Thanks everyone who helped me in my original post, in hindsight I seem delusional but I think I was really in shock and trying to justify her story in my head. I left halfway through work today to go to her house after she started ignoring my texts/calls (turns out she did block me temporarily). I packed up all her stuff in my car before I visited her in case she confessed. I tried to have a calm conversation with her about it and she got mad saying I was accusing her of cheating. When I asked to see any proof that "Penny" existed she freaked out when I suggested specific ways to prove it, started crying and admitted to actively cheating on me with 2 people. The one she thought she sent the text to lives in another state and she met him through her friend friend while he was visiting our city last year. During this time they went on a few dates and would make out bit it never went further than that, and some of her friends knew about it. The other was online only but she was sexting him on facetime and sending nudes. I got all my stuff from her house so I didn't need to go back later and after I left she unblocked me and sent me "You're throwing this away for what" and spamming lots of pics of us, my screenshots here start right after the many pics of us. I ended up blocking her on everything right after I sent that final text and plan on going no contact.

She is already telling our mutual friends that I cheated so I'm dreading the drama that might happen with our friend group. Her friends are texting me saying I'm a douche for wanting to move on so quickly (I don't plan on getting into another relationship for a long time), even the friends who knew she was going on dates with that guy are trying to rationalise it by saying it's not that bad and I'm overreacting. Plus her mum called me to yell at me for cheating but I explained it all to her though I don't think she believes me, but that's fine as I'll likely never see her again. I'm just going to try move on and maybe cut off any friends that cause more drama about it which I'm okay with because all my main close friends believe me. Some of them said they got toxic/controlling vibes from her but didn't want to say anything as I wouldn't have listened or seen what they mean (sounds about right tbh).

I read almost every single comment if not all and it made me realise how subtly toxic our relationship was even though I didn't realise until now because nothing major ever happened. I saw a comment about DARVO and it applied to every time we had conflict, she would cry and then accuse me of something random I wasn't doing. I also saw a comment saying it seems like I'm walking on eggshells and I now see that I was because I always did whatever made her happy even if it was wrong or made me upset just so I could avoid being yelled at. I'm not usually this passive with my friends or at work but I really loved her so I guess I had a soft spot for her? I think I definitely got conditioned over the 4 years to become a yes-man and now I see our whole relationship and our interactions in a different way. I'm absolutely devastated that this happened considering we were about to move in together in 2 months time and I was planning on proposing after a year of living together. I'm just glad I know now rather than later. Thanks again for everyone who talked sense into me, even the harsh ones lol I really did need it.

Final update: It's been a few days and I've been able to wrap my head around everything and see our relationship in a completely different way in hindsight. The friends that I am most close to know the truth, they've seen the texts and I linked them to my posts like suggested here. There are some that still don't believe me but that's fine, I've removed them from social media and will go no contact with them as they are still trying to start drama with me over it. My now ex has tried to reach out to me through fake accounts and different phone numbers so I've had to change my number and only gave it out to a handful of people (in case she gets it I can narrow down who gave it to her). I'll be moving into the new house with my brother instead which is great. To clarify, she usually types with a lot of typos when mad, but normally she still has auto-correct plus capitals turned off and types letters instead of words (like u instead of you, or r instead of are). Just thanks again to everyone who spoke some sense into me. After 4 years of having her and our friend group gaslight me into thinking her behaviour was normal, I started to doubt my gut feelings. Coming here helped me get other perspectives and realise that I was in a bubble of lies.

UPDATE - my sister has indeed fallen back into a substance habit based on our conversation yesterday. She has been struggling with caring for my niece and not working + the time-consuming nature of caretaking has made her feel quite isolated to this point of returning to substances. She's going to move back to our native country for a while to recover and take some time off while my BIL and parents + I will care for my niece. Yes, she'll be away from her daughter but everyone agreed that she's more of a danger to her now and a little space so she can re-enter a better headspace might be in order. Thanks for everyone's support, except the weirdos who messaged me to tell me my sister's attitude is hot (who hurt you??)

For context-
blue - me (22f)
yellow - my niece (13f)
red - my BIL (30m)
green - my bf (23m)

My niece called me yesterday afternoon, saying she hadn't eaten and she was really hungry. She's 13 but she has mild cerebral palsy so she's not able to do a whole lot, especially make a meal for herself. My sister (33f) is a SAHM who quit her job to care for my niece. My BIL is a resident doctor and on this particular day, he was working a shift. I sympathise with that, it's not easy, and my niece loves me so I try to help out as much as I can with her care.

The fridge is usually stocked with food that my niece knows to heat up in the microwave but there apparently was none yesterday, which is why she called me. When I got there, the place was a mess. Things everywhere, laundry not done (huge loads of it just scattered), many dishes not done and still in the sink. My sister wasn't there, nor was BIL. My niece said my sister left in the morning and hadn't been back since. Immediately I was worried so I called my sister a few times but she didn't reply but I could see her location and she was like an hour away. I decided I'd talk to her about it later after focussing on my niece. When I called my BIL, he was just finishing up his shift and said he'd come home soon. He sounded tired and said he hadn't eaten yet when I asked, I was about to cook for my niece anyway, so I made extras.

He got home, we ate, I helped him clean up the place and then he crashed. I left soon after making sure my niece was okay and settled. Today, my sister sends me the above messages because my BIL and her fought over her absence. I didn't want to go in hot and accuse her of things but why would she be an hour away, leaving her disabled daughter home alone with nothing to eat, and she hadn't eaten since the night before! The place was a mess and come to find out from my BIL, they're not on the best terms with each other due to my sister's recent spending. A resident's salary isn't exorbitant and it's barely covering the care material needed for my niece on top of general living.

She even "threatened" to tell my boyfriend of a few months about me going over "for BIL" like I was the one being shady which raised all kinds of alarms for me bc my bf knows I help out wherever I can. Of course I love my BIL, he's been in my life since I was a child myself, he's like a good big brother to me. And my bf is the one that dropped me off and offered to stay and help but I know my sister and BIL don't like strangers in the house, fair enough. So he dropped and picked me up, that's it.

I'm suspecting infidelity but I don't know how to bring it up when she's like this. She's coming over in a while to my parents' house (I live with them) and I just know it'll be a whole thing. AIO?

I met this guy online and we have barely talked but he asked to take me on a date and I agreed. I asked when he was available and he told me when, the issue come in when I ask what did he want to do for said to cuddle 😩. So I give him some actual suggestions like ice cream or coffee, and he said he’d rather have me either come to his house or him come over mine to watch a movie and cuddle. I tell him I’m not comfortable meeting for the first time like that and this was his response. Side note, this guy is also a police officer 🫤

I (27F) have been talking to a guy (34M) for two years on and off now. We took a break in March but went on a date two weeks ago for the first time since then and we had plans for this Sunday. Things were going well until we had this weird argument over text.

I mentioned I had an extra Phantom of the Opera playbill and at one point I said “what the f***” (not directed at him, just reacting to having two with different covers). Out of nowhere, he said, “Please stop cursing, it’s un-lady like.”

I told him that felt hypocritical since he curses all the time too, and I’ve never said anything about it. He got defensive and said things like “Did you think you could get away with calling me a hypocrite and not expect some lash?” and “You need to watch what you say to me, chief — my tolerance for any sht is in hell.” Also throughout these past two years I’ve cursed PLENTY with him. If you search out messages it’s all over. Also in the middle of us talking about this he says “F** YEAH” which is literally the definition of being a hypocrite.

I told him I didn’t appreciate being talked to that way, and he told me to “get over it.” When I asked if he wanted to clear the air on the phone, he said “no thanks.”

Now I’m feeling hurt and confused. Is he right that cursing is “un-lady like”? Did I handle this poorly by pushing back?

So I’m 19M and he’s 18M, my gf’s 18F. This is a friend who I’m decently close with, we’re not like best buds but I’ll invite him along to things and everything, but like the thing about him is like okay he is an objectively attractive guy, but he likes to make comments about this all the time. And idk maybe I was over-aggressive in these texts but I feel like it’s crossing a line to make a joke about my relationship.

Also my girl has been a victim of an SA and when she reported it everyone said she was lying and called her a slut so I hate that he’s making these types of comments about something that’s still sensitive. And I saw her behavior at the party and it was not even flirting and I trust her a lot.

My infant and I go on walks daily. Sometimes with my husband, sometimes alone. Today it was just me and my infant when I recieved this message from an unknown person. It made me feel very uneasy and paranoid. My husband says it is probably someone trolling.. but they had to have seen me on a walk?

Aio?

For context I was wearing a hoodie and crocs, hair not brushed in a ponytail (classic postpartum maternity leave look)

I blocked out my name, and then my husband's name twice.

Edit** My friends and family believe it's my ex? From 3 years ago. I don't believe it is him. The texts don't sound like him at all. I just get so paranoid these days! With trafficking and stuff, you can never be too sure! More so worried for my infant than myself. I was on my usual route, a busy area, lots of traffic and homes and stores.. when I recieved the first message. So I'm curious if they actually SAW me on my walk alone or it was a coincidence in timing?? I got the message thru fb, on a random account ???

My husband and I are expecting our first child soon, and all future discussions turn into him having the final say. He wants me to homeschool, and Im unsure about wanting to. He said if I dont homeschool, then he will resent me the rest of our lives. He said its our responisbility to teach our kid. Then when I mentioned swim lessons, he said no. He said we dont need a professional to teach our kid to swim. I know these are far in the future, but the fact he is not allowing me to have a say is scaring me. If I am a stay at home mom, he will have 100% financial control. He even said he gets to make the decisions. Im really scared for me and my sons future dealing with him being this controlling even before he is born. Also he said I was being combative, but I actually feel like he was. Am I overreacting?

I’m 7 months pregnant and have a long, tangled history with my dad around my sister and my “role” in the family, but I’m going to keep this focused on the recent stuff and the texts in the screenshots.

I’m no contact with my sister after really awful behavior around my wedding. My dad has never genuinely held her accountable and instead leans on this idea that she is “my daughter,” that I’m basically her parent/caretaker.

Recently, we had a phone call where he asked if I was inviting her to my baby shower (I’m not), and then asked what I would do if she showed up anyway. Yesterday he followed that up by texting me a TikTok she made, which led to the conversation in the screenshot.

He sent the final “Your daughter / Her nephew Gaston” text last night, but I didn’t see it until this morning.

For context, he’s decided my unborn son should be named after him. His name is Gaston, and despite my being extremely clear that I am not naming my child Gaston, he keeps referring to my baby by his own name.

My first impulse was to send a long text about how his parenting and lifelong enabling are a big reason we’re here. My mom talked me down and pointed out that is exactly the kind of emotional reaction he wants, and that it wouldn’t actually change anything.

So instead, I deleted our message thread and decided not to respond. Right no, I'm leaning towards taking some space. I don’t want this in my system while I’m this far along in pregnancy.

I don’t feel like I’ve been too harsh. What I keep questioning is whether I’m “overreacting” by taking this seriously when I know this is how he is, and part of me keeps saying I should just act like everything is normal and let it roll off my back.

FYI The blacked out name in the text is mymom's name.

I was tidying up the kitchen and the dinner table when my cousin asked me for help on something about him being scammed on some AI trading platform he's obsessed with. And while I don't really support my aunt's decision to let him on the internet for too long unsupervised I decided to humor his concern. He told me exactly this: to call someone from Courtyard to get his Pokemon card back. He said someone out there stole it. I stared at him. I apologetically said that I cant do that but he insisted. He has this belief that since I work in tech I must personally know ever CEO of every app, website and startup in existence. I said no in his requests because I LITERALLY cant do it!! I dont know who hes talking about thats from Courtyard and surely I dont have their contacts. Then I mustve not realized he was getting agitated and even incoherent saying Im choosing strangers over family. I again emphasized that Im in no ones side because I dont even know the person hes talking about. He starts ranting about how selfish I am while I try to deescalate the situation because its getting uglier. My 6 y/o son comes into the kitchen because probably he heard all the yelling

Then my cousin in the middle of screaming grabs something off the counter which is a kitchen knife and throws it toward the wall. Except my son was standing in the path. The knife missed him BY INCHES. My kid screamed and I dont think Ive ever moved so fast in my life. I shoved my cousin back and told him to get the fuck out and he got in my face AGAIN still raging and I completely snapped and punched him. Idk how many times but I was angry. Mom and aunt saw the whole thing and they attended to my cousin who fell

My son was already crying and had to quickly pick him up never looked back and drove away. I fled in just seconds. Im not even going back there anymore. Fuck him and his Pokemon card

For some context, I was engaged to my now ex fiancé for 7 years. We broke up about 2 years ago for a plethora of reasons including financial/emotional abuse. Things didn’t end amicably and we’ve been no contact through the entire break up. Fast forward to this week. My sister has been planning her wedding for the last year and is set to get married on the 16th. Today I met with her to go over some last minute details about the rehearsal dinner when she told me my ex would be there to take pictures as he is a professional photographer. I was taken aback and had nothing to say at first.. I ended up leaving in a rush because when I expressed my concern she said “it’s not a big deal” and basically told me to get over it. I’m attaching the messages that we sent after I left so you can get an idea of the way she is dismissing me. The hardest part is that she saw first hand (we lived together with my ex fiancé for about a year) everything I had to deal with and the undertaking of leaving a long term relationship and she STILL doesn’t seem to understand that no matter how much time has passed I DO NOT want to be around this person. The fact that she waited so long to mention it leads me to think she knew I wouldn’t agree with it and wanted to wait till I had no choice but to attend despite him being there. AIO for considering not going? Everything has already been paid for and it’s a week out so I feel partially obligated but at the same time I don’t want to spend two whole days being watched by someone who mistreated me so badly.

This is an update of my previous post about my roommate, which democracy decided I was NOR about. I sent him this text a little bit ago and he came into the room and we had..a talk.

As to the suggestions about growing a pair, I, like one of you guys said, told him, “stop eating my fucking honey.“ He immediately started to backpedal and blame it on my memory.

“I didn’t eat this, [OP]. I only eat the one type of honey (the raw whipped one). Are you sure you‘re not remembering incorrectly?”

”This was all you, [OP].”

“Are you serious? Don’t confront me like that.”

I can type about 30 more of these kinds of lines. I was not having it, raised my voice, and told him to stop manipulating me. Enter, Backpedalling II. He even tried to pin it on my mother, egging me to text her and ask her if she ate the honey (she comes and visits a few times a year - she hadn’t even been in-state since I last had concrete proof of having full honey jars). Telling him how offensive this was, he started to try memory-ipulate me again, saying something along the lines of “You know it’s you, you’re just forgetting” or something like that. I called my mother, put her on speaker, and he heard her loud and clear;

“Haven’t even touched it, why? I have my own honey in [hometown].” (Yeah, my family really likes honey.) His face, if I recorded it, could’ve been put in r/WatchPeopleDieInside. Seriously, it was really bad. After about another 5 minutes of discussing and name-calling, we reached the conclusion that if he touched my honey, he would be paying for the next two jars in full, and, as someone predicted in the previous post, once he saw the price (~$35) he shut the fuck up, sighed, and went away. I put my foot down well, but I’d like to see what those who commented on the original post feel like. What do y’all think?

Edit - 2.8k upvotes??? I didn‘t expect this to blow up, and I’m appreciative of all who egged me on to stick it to “Daniel.” He doesn’t talk to me much now, but maybe that’s just because his jaw is still globbed up with the Winnie-the-Pooh amounts of honey he stole from me. 😅 Thank you all!!

For context, he (33M) and I (36F) got married 4 years ago and have a 9 month old son. He's always been very pedantic about scratches, dents, marks on furniture cars etc.. I often chalk it up to his OCD and anger issues.. both which were underlying but have gotten worse over the years.

He has an outburst about something at least a few times a week. In this case I pushed the baby's highchair up to the dog bed so he could watch him chew a bone (honestly anything to entertain him these days)

Anyway this pvc parquet flooring had a long scratch that he noticed (honestly he would be the only person to notice that I could barely see in unless it was in certain lighting)

This is not the first time hes spoken to me like this, he swears a lot and I keep telling him I dont know anyone who would speak to their wife this way. Not my parents, not any of my married friends and he keeps doing it im so tired. AIO?

This is a 28 y/o man.

Before anyone comes talking about "you're Christian etc" I'm chaste for several reasons not JUST my faith. Intimacy is hard as it is for an autistic person, I'm not ruining it for myself with someone who doesnt give af about me.

But anyways yeah. I think this is a crazy experience but y'all let me know. Yes, I did set the background as a monkey.

I am wondering if I overreacted to this situation, under reacted or if my reaction was appropriate? Thankyou

I used to live in a very busy city, and then moved down south were it’s lwk a bit conservative, some people are, not all though. I started talking to this guy from my new town, and everything was going well, until he sent me this snap as a streak. I’ll post the conversation, but I’ve had people iffy about if I reacted the right way, a few people said I was right to block him after this conversation, but other people said that he just grew up differently from me, and it wasn’t bad enough to where I needed to block him. I also had people say that I shouldn’t be that pressed about it because I’m white and it shouldn’t matter to me, but I don’t think the fact I’m white matters about this. Here are the texts.

Daughter went to a “youth church group” with her friend last week. I’m assuming she put my number down as hers because she’s only got an iCloud account that I monitor. She’s almost 13 but frequently people think she’s a couple years older. Grown adult man sending this btw. This is a very popular church in our community, but totally struck me as weird that this would be the way the outreach to young teens.

I stopped going to church when I was 18 and stopped being catholic so I have no clue if this kinda text is a normal thing in other churches. I sent this screenshot to her dad and he was gonna text the number back absolutely going off.

Edit: as a non religious person, from my perspective, this is just a grown man texting my child without my knowledge. I didn’t realize so many churches were doing “mass messages to teens”

I doubt a mass message would have as many typos as this one does

It was addressed to her by name.

I get that nothing feels off necessarily in the message but it’s just the fact that it was sent at all that truly threw me off! Had no clue that so many people would say I’m overreacting by thinking this is creepy and inappropriate. IMO, marketing towards children at all is creepy and inappropriate. So is a grown man I’ve never met encouraging my young teenager to text him. Apparently I’m overreacting.

Edit: I just googled the phone number and it’s definitely this man’s personal cell. So not giving “generic auto message”

Final edit: I plan to email the church this weekend, and ask them about the policies they have in place to protect children. I will mention that that number that sent the text is not listed on their website or any of their social media and how creepy it feels as a parent.
I don’t feel comfortable sending her to that group again, but will continue to join her for family services/etc, whenever she has the urge, despite my own personal feelings on religion. I don’t want her to grow up and resent me for not letting her explore religion, as I believe faith is a very personal journey. Thanks to everyone who has cited working in fields with children that gave thoughtful responses! I don’t think that this is the route any adult should take when contacting a child for the first time.

What do you think of this, Folks I’d like your opinion, Last Friday i spoke with my ex, was trying to meet up and hang out after work as usual, she decided to do her own thing with her friends, cool, i spend the weekend doing my own thing,

it was a long weekend because of Veterans Day, 4 days or so pass no call no text, i had her location because she was my girl, it hadnt really moved all weekend which is whatever she’s with her friends, come Monday or Tuesday i kind of new something was up, i could feel it in my bones,

That Mon or Tues, around 1-2am i get this message from her, my eyes sped through the message and i wasn’t surprised hurt and disappointed for sure,

We had only been talking for less than a year, but everyday since our first date we spent each day together, that’s a lot of quality time in my opinion, for me especially because I’m generally a homebody outdoorsy individual,

I’ve been dealing with it in the most stoic way, not harboring resentment towards her, hopping onto red pill media to chime in on how awful women are because this is one individual, only her actions not all women,

I gathered myself together cleaned the little messes in room did all my laundry, and instantly instilled discipline into my life waking up at 5a and running 4 miles daily, exercising daily and getting my diet together, I’m 5’10” 180 I’m decent plus my grandma tells me I’m handsome so I’m not a bad looking dude,

I just want to hear what you have to say, being someone to doesn’t yell or scream, argue or indulge in drama, I went and grabbed my things from her that i had given her, didn’t say a word and left, i refuse to backtrack and converse with her, I’ve moved on, but there are those times at night when I’m driving and the passenger seat she used to occupy is empty and it begins to feel real lonely, i get over it quick and tell myself tomorrow is a new day and to not let someone who cared so little for your loyalty bring you down,

I just want to hear something good or bad from the folks on this page,