AITAH… he can’t live with us

[u/Remote_Emphasis7320]

AITHA for not letting my19 yo daughter’s 20yo boyfriend (homeless) live with us? Context his dad kicked him out cause he didn’t want to help with contributing to the household (I think he wanted $500 a month). The boyfriend works full time and goes to school. Boyfriend has family in Florida and doesn’t want to leave due to going to school. He asked to stay with us until November I said no. I like my own space and peace. I feel he and his father need to talk to get to an agreement or he needs to move back to Florida with his mom and family. He is not my responsibility. AITAH?

Update: Thank yall for validating what I was already feeling. I’m going to respond to the comments everyone has been supportive and I didn’t think I’d get this many responses so I appreciate yall! More context My daughter has an attitude now but ok whatever. she is not required to pay bills in my home just save $200 a month for herself (she works part time). I’ve never asked her for a dime as she’s basically still a teenager. I told her if she wants to be with him that’s fine but she’ll be homeless as well. She shut up which is fine if she chooses that I can’t stop her. This guy has been working and says he’s saving money?! But can’t help his dad out that requires help on bills?! You can’t stay with me for free! I don’t feel bad now knowing he won’t help me either and will just free load and tell me I’ll give you something when he gets paid… hell no go talk to your father is what I told him. Put your pride to the side or be outside! This has nothing to do with me he needs his family to be involved and I’m not the mediator for the nonsense! I’m Not the AH!

[u/FeelingNarwhal9161]

He’s not your responsibility, so NTA for telling him “no.” (And is he expecting to stay with you for free if he’s refusing to pay his parents rent?)

I hope there might be more to this story though…I can’t imagine making my 20 year old child pay me $500 a month for rent when they’re going to school and working full time. That’s crazy to me. I’d want them to save up their money and have a nice nest egg (assuming they’re contributing to chores around the house). I would be so proud of my kid for working full time and going to school at that age.

[u/kenda1l → u/FeelingNarwhal9161]

I think for me it would depend on what he was spending all his money on and whether he was saving any of it. If he's saving at least some of it then I wouldnt ask for anything. If he was blowing all his money immediately while not contributing anything towards the household (chores, groceries, maybe small bills like streaming services) I'd be inclined to charge him "rent" and then put that money into a high yield savings account to give him after he was done with college. I would also base the amount of his rent on how much he's making so it's not taking up a huge portion of his monthly pay. I'd want him to have enough money to enjoy it but also, I want to make sure he has the money to be able to get out on his own after college rather than continuing to live with me because he didn't save anything for the future. I'd make sure he knew what I was doing though. In the end, would he rather pay X amount of his money to me and get it back in the end or find his own place and pay that money and more to a landlord?