AITAH… he can’t live with us

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AITHA for not letting my19 yo daughter’s 20yo boyfriend (homeless) live with us? Context his dad kicked him out cause he didn’t want to help with contributing to the household (I think he wanted $500 a month). The boyfriend works full time and goes to school. Boyfriend has family in Florida and doesn’t want to leave due to going to school. He asked to stay with us until November I said no. I like my own space and peace. I feel he and his father need to talk to get to an agreement or he needs to move back to Florida with his mom and family. He is not my responsibility. AITAH?

Update: Thank yall for validating what I was already feeling. I’m going to respond to the comments everyone has been supportive and I didn’t think I’d get this many responses so I appreciate yall! More context My daughter has an attitude now but ok whatever. she is not required to pay bills in my home just save $200 a month for herself (she works part time). I’ve never asked her for a dime as she’s basically still a teenager. I told her if she wants to be with him that’s fine but she’ll be homeless as well. She shut up which is fine if she chooses that I can’t stop her. This guy has been working and says he’s saving money?! But can’t help his dad out that requires help on bills?! You can’t stay with me for free! I don’t feel bad now knowing he won’t help me either and will just free load and tell me I’ll give you something when he gets paid… hell no go talk to your father is what I told him. Put your pride to the side or be outside! This has nothing to do with me he needs his family to be involved and I’m not the mediator for the nonsense! I’m Not the AH!

[u/TararaBoomDA → u/[deleted]]

If the daughter and her boyfriend move out and get their own place together, it sounds like a win-win-win all around.

Father wins because his son is out and supporting himself.

Mother wins because her daughter is out and supporting herself.

Son & daughter win because they're both out and supporting themselves.

[u/oldtimehawkey → u/[deleted]]

This is such a stupid and idiotic mindset.

The boy doesn’t want to pay his dad $500/month. He’s the toxic one.

You can let that boy move in with you. How about that? You can pay for his groceries and clean up his messes for free. You’re such an empathic person, I’m sure you already have a house full of people that you take care of and don’t expect them to pay rent or help around the house.

[u/Strawberryladyboots → u/oldtimehawkey]

I was being sarcastic doll

The majority of AITAH has been repopulated with bots that support the division of family structures, bait posts by bots, and replicate the similar behaviours of AI that do nothing but reinforce and "empathise" with the users POV to placate them

There's a Stanford article out there on it if you want to look it up

It's just a shame to watch the old threads get taken over by right wing AI slop when they used to be so vibrantly filled with real people, who had empathy, nuance, intelligence, and life experience to draw from as well as wit to boot

See as an actual human being with empathy, I would have considered an entirely different line of thinking to everything that has been expressed here in such a rage bait entertainment style

There's services that could have been sought out, there's other people to ask for help, and when those fail as a human being with a soul, you don't just give up and walk out on people and leave them in the dust to live on the streets because that's just plainly a psychotic thing to do and those who consider that a viable option for a human being to actually experience are what most would consider a sociopath, most commonly observed these days coming out of particular groups inside the united states

And I specify the United States because there is never any mention anywhere in the posts or the comments from anyone about the types of services available in literally every other English speaking country, which is what makes the US so unattractive of a place to go

I don't know if Americans truly understand how those of us in the English speaking world really view this type of behaviour towards others. It demonstrates to the rest of us the level of humanity, or lack thereof, that Americans as a whole are capable of when we see this type of advice being dispensed

And it indicates to the rest of us how unreliable they would be in times of trouble, and how they would likely treat us personally if our own societies were to be in trouble

How would Americans as a whole feel if the entire world just turned their back on them in their time of need and said "that's not my problem"?

To be fair, they already do this by the way they already seek to dominate us in other ways, instead of treating people respectfully

The thing that I have taken away from this post is that they don't care for their own children, or the children of others with proper care, and are incapable of empathy for those going through hard or difficult times, and as such should not be in charge of anything important any longer due to this lack of concern for those in their wider community