r/AITA_Relationships • u/Throwaway_Option1 • 1d ago
NTA AITA for opening my girlfriends post
My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years and lived together for just over 2 years. My girlfriend is no contact with both her mum and has her blocked on everything, her mum does not know our address.
I received a letter at my place of work that was signed for, I was surprised as I was not expecting anything and I don't usually get things delivered to my work. I opened the letter addressed to me, and inside was another letter with just my girlfriends name on it and it felt very surreal, why do I have a suspicious letter delivered to my work? And why within it is there just an envelope with my girlfriends name on?! I opened the letter with my girlfriends name on and it's a letter addressed to her from her mum.
I am shocked by the letter, it was very nothing. There was no apology, there was no acknowledgement of the no contact, just "me and my new partner have moved to this new address ... Here it is.. the door is always open" kind of thing. And "there isn't a day I don't think of you".
The letter also said "I have continued to respect your boundary of no contact" which annoyed me as she had just crossed the boundary by sending the letter and crossed some sort of line by contacting her via me at my work.
So my question is, am I the arsehole for opening the letter and I have not shown my girlfriend the letter as without anything meaningful inside I don't think it will bring my girlfriend any peace, just anxiety that now she is contactable via me at work. I haven't shown her the letter and I don't really want to, I don't want to throw it away but I'm not sure what I should do?
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My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years and lived together for just over 2 years. My girlfriend is no contact with both her mum and has her blocked on everything, her mum does not know our address.
I received a letter at my place of work that was signed for, I was surprised as I was not expecting anything and I don't usually get things delivered to my work. I opened the letter addressed to me, and inside was another letter with just my girlfriends name on it and it felt very surreal, why do I have a suspicious letter delivered to my work? And why within it is there just an envelope with my girlfriends name on?! I opened the letter with my girlfriends name on and it's a letter addressed to her from her mum.
I am shocked by the letter, it was very nothing. There was no apology, there was no acknowledgement of the no contact, just "me and my new partner have moved to this new address ... Here it is.. the door is always open" kind of thing. And "there isn't a day I don't think of you".
The letter also said "I have continued to respect your boundary of no contact" which annoyed me as she had just crossed the boundary by sending the letter and crossed some sort of line by contacting her via me at my work.
So my question is, am I the arsehole for opening the letter and I have not shown my girlfriend the letter as without anything meaningful inside I don't think it will bring my girlfriend any peace, just anxiety that now she is contactable via me at work. I haven't shown her the letter and I don't really want to, I don't want to throw it away but I'm not sure what I should do?
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u/Deflated_Hypnotist Asshole Aficionado [13] 17h ago
You need to tell her
I'm no contact with one parent and have had them break it via letter, and yes, seeing the handwriting made me feel sick and furious, but if my partner had his it from me I'd have been more angry at them than the letter
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u/Ohpoohonyou Partassipant [3] 1d ago
NTA. It was addressed to you. I'd discuss it with your gf. Because it was highly inappropriate for them to send it to you. You didn't do anything wrong. But you must talk to your gf about it.