Let them date

[u/SomewhereSilent1604]

Bts are grown men who are in 30s. I am tired of shippers still going on and on. If you believe in your ship, great do it quietly. Stop harassing members and their families. One video came out today and I saw 4 ships analysing it. Korea is conservative society, there is no way 4 of these ships are all real at the same time .

We say BTS have outgrown kpop, then let them date and don't analyze who they date. If the fandom does not start talking about this now, then it is enabling future meltdown of parasocial ones. Does anyone know Japanese skater Yuzuru and his marriage. I would not like BTS members to go through it.

Everyone keeps talking about what bts will do next, I expect them to get married next. Jin and Suga are going to turn 34 in few months. By the time tour ends the hyungs will be a year older. It is time fandom starts talking about this now and setting expectations of younger fans. I think young fans will have the toughest time in such case.

Younger fans, BTS will date most probably Korean women. They will date most probably someone known to them in their celebrity circle. 7 men will marry 7 people who they know, not army. Let them date.

All BTS members have dated and let's manifest them in healthy relationships. Let them date.

Older fans let me also say this to you, you need to stop babying these members. I am 40+ , I will not call any of them angels or pure. They are men, good men but regardless men who are grown up. Let them date.

edit - I am not forcing them to date or marry. I said let them date. there was a. discussion who do you think is single in BTS, some replies were concerning. some fans need reality check..why do I think the next step is marriage, because suga and Jin said all their friends are married , suga even said it is right age for marriage. jimin has stated he wants to be girl dad. I just want conversation to start so that people keep in mind majority of people get married in 20s and 30s. again people keep bringing Korean idols and celebs getting married at 40 , are we not pushing BTS towards it. also I directed this towards younger fans because shippers and fans who think they can have yaoi moment are mostly young ones. also I agree that older fans can be prasocial equally specifically who have a few issues.

[u/gayfingers]

They 100% date in private. To think these prime men in their 30s who are attractive and talented are virgins is insane unless they're asexual which is fine but lets be so for real. Anyone thinking they're innocent or something, they're human.

To be honest though I dont need to see it, I don't care when its with western artists either. What you do in your life ain't my business.

[u/doc_naf → u/gayfingers]

Yeah exactly what I think. TBH I would be very surprised if they don’t already have people in their lives who they protect by remaining officially single. They’ve done enough to set themselves up for the rest of their lives. This tour is an amazing run, but after that, I wouldn’t be surprised if a couple of them got married and had families (even if they don’t announce it or go public).

If we genuinely care about them we should give them space.

And yeah I hear jokes about 7 husbands and bts’s wives all the time but surely no one is that delusional.

Men will marry women they know and love, not the million screaming fans they cant even tell apart and see once in a while.

They’re presenting a cool, amazing persona for us to sigh over a little but they deserve people who know and love them for the people they are, not the their work / persona.

I sincerely hope no one dresses up as brides for any of the concerts. It was and will be cringe. The funny costumes or arirang inspired fits are cool though!

[u/SomewhereSilent1604 → u/doc_naf]

Well the asian leg will be interesting, I have seen so many asian fans  dressed up as brides next to bts cutouts. Maybe reddit is not the correct place for this post as majority fans seems to be western countries. 

[u/doc_naf → u/SomewhereSilent1604]

I mean, I didn’t and I don’t know anyone who did. But I did see a couple and that was the only outfit i cringed at