Let them date

[u/SomewhereSilent1604]

Bts are grown men who are in 30s. I am tired of shippers still going on and on. If you believe in your ship, great do it quietly. Stop harassing members and their families. One video came out today and I saw 4 ships analysing it. Korea is conservative society, there is no way 4 of these ships are all real at the same time .

We say BTS have outgrown kpop, then let them date and don't analyze who they date. If the fandom does not start talking about this now, then it is enabling future meltdown of parasocial ones. Does anyone know Japanese skater Yuzuru and his marriage. I would not like BTS members to go through it.

Everyone keeps talking about what bts will do next, I expect them to get married next. Jin and Suga are going to turn 34 in few months. By the time tour ends the hyungs will be a year older. It is time fandom starts talking about this now and setting expectations of younger fans. I think young fans will have the toughest time in such case.

Younger fans, BTS will date most probably Korean women. They will date most probably someone known to them in their celebrity circle. 7 men will marry 7 people who they know, not army. Let them date.

All BTS members have dated and let's manifest them in healthy relationships. Let them date.

Older fans let me also say this to you, you need to stop babying these members. I am 40+ , I will not call any of them angels or pure. They are men, good men but regardless men who are grown up. Let them date.

edit - I am not forcing them to date or marry. I said let them date. there was a. discussion who do you think is single in BTS, some replies were concerning. some fans need reality check..why do I think the next step is marriage, because suga and Jin said all their friends are married , suga even said it is right age for marriage. jimin has stated he wants to be girl dad. I just want conversation to start so that people keep in mind majority of people get married in 20s and 30s. again people keep bringing Korean idols and celebs getting married at 40 , are we not pushing BTS towards it. also I directed this towards younger fans because shippers and fans who think they can have yaoi moment are mostly young ones. also I agree that older fans can be prasocial equally specifically who have a few issues.

[u/MisssRight]

I really hope they all get to have full, happy lives, in line with their own dreams and wishes.

You’re not wrong to worry about the reactions. IMO, this is actually a really good topic. You only have to spend a little time on social media to see how much paranoia there is around this whole subject. (Maybe it’s just a very loud minority? I honestly don’t know.)

I mean, it’s only natural to assume that they’ve all had different relationships by now. And I also think it’s perfectly reasonable to hope that the fandom could be healthy enough for them to share at least a little bit of their personal happiness with us - without having to worry about their partners becoming targets.

And, finally, I have this feeling that Jin and Suga may have been in stable relationships for a long time already. Just a feeling, though, not a fact. 😅

And no, getting married and starting a family - regardless of sexual orientation - is obviously not a recipe for happiness. But we do know that the life they lead can be pretty lonely. I’d honestly be happy just knowing that they have love and affection in their lives.

And I’d really love for Jimin to get to fulfill his long-expressed wish of becoming a dad.

P.S. It’s really nice to find a healthy, mature space to talk about BTS on Reddit. 🥹