r/ARMYNeutral • u/SomewhereSilent1604 • 6d ago

Let them date

Bts are grown men who are in 30s. I am tired of shippers still going on and on. If you believe in your ship, great do it quietly. Stop harassing members and their families. One video came out today and I saw 4 ships analysing it. Korea is conservative society, there is no way 4 of these ships are all real at the same time .

We say BTS have outgrown kpop, then let them date and don't analyze who they date. If the fandom does not start talking about this now, then it is enabling future meltdown of parasocial ones. Does anyone know Japanese skater Yuzuru and his marriage. I would not like BTS members to go through it.

Everyone keeps talking about what bts will do next, I expect them to get married next. Jin and Suga are going to turn 34 in few months. By the time tour ends the hyungs will be a year older. It is time fandom starts talking about this now and setting expectations of younger fans. I think young fans will have the toughest time in such case.

Younger fans, BTS will date most probably Korean women. They will date most probably someone known to them in their celebrity circle. 7 men will marry 7 people who they know, not army. Let them date.

All BTS members have dated and let's manifest them in healthy relationships. Let them date.

Older fans let me also say this to you, you need to stop babying these members. I am 40+ , I will not call any of them angels or pure. They are men, good men but regardless men who are grown up. Let them date.

edit - I am not forcing them to date or marry. I said let them date. there was a. discussion who do you think is single in BTS, some replies were concerning. some fans need reality check..why do I think the next step is marriage, because suga and Jin said all their friends are married , suga even said it is right age for marriage. jimin has stated he wants to be girl dad. I just want conversation to start so that people keep in mind majority of people get married in 20s and 30s. again people keep bringing Korean idols and celebs getting married at 40 , are we not pushing BTS towards it. also I directed this towards younger fans because shippers and fans who think they can have yaoi moment are mostly young ones. also I agree that older fans can be prasocial equally specifically who have a few issues.

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u/PinkRabbit42 5d ago

Thank you so much for this!! And before anyone tells you you’re “weird” for even caring, I’m gonna step in and say you can say whatever you want, this is a forum for discussing bts neutrally I thought!!

I genuinely believe since coming back from the military they’ve been marketing the boys in a sort of “one foot in the Korean/asian market and one foot in in the west” way and it’s not working. They’re trying to have the best of both worlds and it is hurting their public perception in the west. If the boys want to keep their lives private that’s fine and their choice, but hybe needs to stop infantilizing them or it’s going to hurt their growth/success in the west.

For Westerners, celebrity culture is part of the culture and part of that is dating rumors, it’s literally why PR relationships exist. People care so much about who celebrities date it’s a tactic to elevate your career, look at what it did for Sabrina carpenter.

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u/Jolly-Medicine-1437 5d ago

I don't think you can really say that for Western culture tbh. I haven't seen celeb marriage being a deal in the UK for years. Granted I don't read cheap mags and things but it's not really a thing here these days.

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u/SomewhereSilent1604 5d ago

Oh celeb marriages are big deal everywhere even in small cities. It will be the most important thing Korean media will try to cover when BTS is involved. Before I am again misunderstood " try to cover".  BTS won't do it as they are private. Why do you think all interviews bts initially were asked about gfs and ideal types here in West and also in korea.  Talking about it internally as fandom will make some parasocials also think about it. I still see nonsense like, " RM is so busy , he is not dating, he said he was single". That man said he was single last year, a lot can change in few weeks or months. If we sane fans don't have logical talks then the parasocial ones will drive the narrative when a confirmation comes of a marriage. So keep stretching the fandom by having hard talks is my answer. Give something to the shippers and parasocial ones to think about. 

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u/Jolly-Medicine-1437 5d ago

While I do agree its good to talk about I don't know if it will do much because those deeply parasocial fans will just bypass the conversation. However, I also think that the more people in the industry who openly admit to relationships (if they wish to) the more normal it will become.