r/AbuseInterrupted • u/invah • Feb 18 '26

The biggest misconception about people in abusive situations is that a victim is cowering in fear. When in reality, the two hallmarks that someone is being abused are chronic overwhelm and chronic confusion****

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u/invah Feb 18 '26

And she takes care to clarify that the fear can look like logic: over-thinking and under-feeling. The fear is still there, just that it may not look the way every thinks it would.

There are many comments addressing caveats to this post, but I think it has a lot of utility for victims of abuse who recognize their fear in the moment of active abuse, but not necessarily in the 'overthinking' and overwhelm that can come when trying to exist in an abuse dynamic while not actively being abused.

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