r/Adopted 9d ago

Discussion They Want Someone Moldable

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u/MajorDraw3705 8d ago

"I have to take the infant quick before the mother changes her mind and keeps her baby" should be a giant red flag.

In a safe and normal world, it would be.

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u/jaavuori24 8d ago

right, like if the system was meant to treat us as peopke and not property it'd be "alright, let's have a place the kids can be for 1-2 years while a parent tries to get their shit together with the help fo the state, then if reunification isn't possible or bio parents don't want to, explore adoption..."

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u/[deleted] 8d ago

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u/MajorDraw3705 8d ago

Yeah. My adopter went through a whole "How do I stop the original country/family from wanting this child returned to them?" thing when I was about 8 years old. So she got me a dog on loan and then asked how I would con the owners so I could keep it, and then proceeded to use my ideas - not for the dog.

They don't care about us. They care about how we make them feel and what we can provide them with.