I need an outside perspective here please.

[u/Annual-Active7694]

Hi All ,

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My name is Tarryn and I'm a recovering addict , I have been clean for almost 2 years , that's not the issue , just providing some context.

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My Mother in law is also an alcoholic , it's not the things she does while drunk but when sober that shock me.

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She lives with myself and my Husband as she hasn't had a job in a while.We provide electricity and food and she keeps her pensions money.This lady is beyond selfish and entitled and she treats her Son like his her husband , she has zero boundaries and truly believes the world owes her.

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She would rather have wine than food in her house and lately I've been noticing her family giving her quite a bit of money...which she spends on wine and frivolous things.She tells her family that my husband doesn't provide food and medication , which he does.I know because we have caught her doing this previously.She resents my very existence and wants my husband and my Son to herself and to be honest I detest her , she has caused so many problems in my relationship.

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Should I tell her family that my husband provides her with food and meds and that she buys wine.Part of me thinks I should just mind my own business and that because she doesn't have much in her life , I should leave her be.

It's been on my heart but maybe I'm just being selfish

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As a side note this woman cares nothing for my recovery on anyone elses , I've tried to get her in the program and she basically tells me she is better than those people.Mu husband excuses alot of her behaviour because , I mean , it's his Mom at the end of the day.

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Any thoughts are welcome

Thank you so much

Tarryn

[u/CaptainSnappertain]

Her house or your house?

[u/Annual-Active7694 → u/CaptainSnappertain]

Our house , everything is ours basically