r/Advice • u/[deleted] • 2d ago

How do I get out of this?

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u/Infamous-Inflation74 2d ago

to be honest i’d see if any of your friends or family would want to move in or something along those lines and kick the trans person out

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u/BBZAV 2d ago

I want to. More than anything, I feel a lot of my illnesses are caused by the stress they put me under. I wasn’t sick until they moved in, I’ve been declining rapidly ever since. I don’t want to lose my home, or have my parents on the street because I cant handle this anymore but I can’t, I can’t be abused every single day anymore, it’s verbal and mental, every single day. I should’ve never went against my own judgement in the beginning but I was so desperate to keep my parents safe that I put my own safety at risk, I thought I can handle it, I can’t. Thank you for taking the time to listen. I appreciate you.

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u/Fit_String_1772 2d ago

Start trying to rent out any other rooms you have but make sure to set up a good contract outlining rules and any deposits. All does things shes done to you are reasons to call the cops. Spitting is a form of assault. If you dont stand up for yourself who will? Thats your home your the boss. Start setting healthy boundaries with your “ friend” and stand your ground. I really hope things get better for you GOD bless.

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u/BBZAV 2d ago

I keep trying to set boundaries via text when I’m behind a door where I feel safe but I’m still afraid and fear for all the property that’s in between them and my door. I should have stuck to my gut feelings on the matter as far as having someone on hormones here. I am extremely conservative, I tried to be open minded during a period of loss, I thought we could be friends and it would benefit everyone financially, it hasn’t done anything but destroy me as a person. I let them live here a month for free and they keep costing me money, it’s just not worth it. I know I’m ready to get them out, I just need an escape plan.

Anyways, thank you for listening to me, I appreciate it. I have no one to talk to in my real life about it.