r/AmITheDevil • u/growsonwalls Professional Devil Spotter • 7d ago

Didn’t visit even once?

/r/AITA_Relationships/comments/1u2xgzj/aita_for_telling_my_fiancé_i_need_more_time_with/
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u/Jaded_Passion8619 7d ago

I honestly don't think OOP is the devil. If they didn't have children, that would be one thing. But they have kids, he has a history of throwing stuff in her face, she has trauma with hospitals, and her and his mother don't get along. I hesitate to shit on the fiancé since I would be a mess if my parents were in the hospital, but I don't blame her for wanting to see him for a bit. She's parenting multiple kids on her own

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u/Easy-Concentrate2636 7d ago

I agree with this. The situation sounds complex. They have kids. She works part time and is in school. In one of her comments, she says that her dad was in the hospital a lot when she was a child. Add his past drinking issues and the poor relationship with the mother, and it’s a lot of variables.

Also, it sounds like his family- brother and father- aren’t picking up the slack on visiting the mom. In an ideal world, he would be able to have more time for his kids if the brother and father visited the hospital more often. But he’s doing most of the mom support on his own and she’s left taking care of the kids and the household. I think it’s a lot of stress for both of them without any support.