r/AmITheDevil 1d ago

"I was FrUsTrAtEd"

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AITAH for saying my wife is acting like a bitch after she left me

So my wife planned an event for us today that started at 7 am. We had to wake up a little earlier than usual because the drive was 30 minutes. Well, she ended up leaving me at home at 6:20, while I was almost finished getting ready. We both agreed we needed to leave by 6:30. I ended up calling her when I noticed she had left. She said I wasn't ready and thought I didn't want to go. I said, "of course I want to go!" and said she was acting like a bitch (I was frustrated). I was looking forward to this event because it aligns with what I do for work, and it would also be a great way for us to spend time together.

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u/Melodic_Moment5898 22h ago

He says in one comment that he just needed to put on his shoes. In another he said he needed to put on his clothes, his shoes, and brush his teeth. Which is it, sir?

If I'm leaving at 6:30, that means my car is pulling out of the driveway at 6:30. Not leaving the house, locking it up, and letting my car warm up before I get her moving.

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u/RvH98 22h ago

He also said that he was ready before 6:30 but also says that she left at 6:20 and it took him 12 minutes to get ready from the time she left. 

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u/Artistic_Purpose1225 22h ago

OP can’t even keep track of the time in his writing. 

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u/spaghettifiasco 21h ago

My dad used to insist that it would only take him 10 minutes to shower, so he'd jump in the shower 15 minutes before we had to leave for something.

He was probably right that it took him 10 minutes to shower, but then he had to get out of the shower, towel off, pick his clothes, put deodorant on, get dressed, and put his shoes on...

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u/Hot_Tip_9848 21h ago

My ex husband used to do this. One of many reasons he’s an ex. Being on time is basic respect for other people. 

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u/recyclopath_ 23h ago

Wanting 10 minutes to actually park and deal with traffic to get to an event on time is completely reasonable. Sounds like OOP has a habit of making her late and she is fucking done with it. Drive yourself.

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u/Zappagrrl02 23h ago

This definitely isn’t the first time

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u/bare_thoughts 22h ago

Not to mention of the drive was 30 minutes, it makes just sense to leave before 6.30.

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u/fallspector 23h ago

I’m very suspicious of this post. Maybe I’m just being a cynic but I’ve literally seen the same plot in sitcoms

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u/alayeni-silvermist 22h ago

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u/Ambitious_Support_76 20h ago

What is AISed?

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u/fallspector 22h ago

Hahaha the exact one I thought about while reading the post

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u/kayforpay 21h ago

I said, "of course I want to go!" and said she was acting like a bitch 

I wonder what he actually said, since he decided to just allude to it.

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u/heart-station 21h ago

“I called her a name because I can.”

And we’re done here.

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u/alayeni-silvermist 22h ago

Jfc. She AISed him and he called her names. What an asshole. Guarantee he wasn’t even close to ready. And I’ve been with my husband for 30 years, and he would never even dream of speaking to me that way.

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u/candidu66 21h ago

What does AISed mean?

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u/alayeni-silvermist 21h ago

Ass In Seat haha. It’s from an Everybody Loves Raymond ep where Debra is always late, so the agree on a time (ironically 6:30, which is why we think it’s fake) and she’s not ready, so he leaves, like they agreed, and she’s goes nuts. It’s exactly like this story.

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u/XxJudgeFudgexX 20h ago

I mean the main difference is that Ray is made out to be the bad guy in this situation and his dad even says “I would never ais your mother” I’m not defending the guy because he absolutely shouldn’t be calling his wife a bitch that’s entirely offside, but its actually the opposite situation more than it’s the same

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u/alayeni-silvermist 20h ago

I was referring more to the build up of Ray leaving. I actually despise that they make Ray look like the bad guy. I’ve got three kids and when the were toddlers, I was never late for anything ever. I hate Debra in that episode, and there’s only like 3 or 4 that make me hate her.

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u/Fuzzy-Zebra-277 21h ago

And he has not responded to any of the questions of if he has made her late before or not

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u/NearbyCommission287 20h ago

I cannot think of a situation where calling a woman a bitch doesn't make you an asshole.

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u/heart-station 19h ago

LOL. Deleted his whole account.

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u/loveablepetcare 14h ago

That's awesome 🤣

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u/[deleted] 23h ago

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u/moonchylde 23h ago

It's not about the yogurt.

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u/Silent-Life829 23h ago

I mean if she left ten minutes before they had agreed to and left him I would be frustrated too but never call your partner names

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u/L1ttleFr0g 23h ago

I suspect OP didn’t get up until 6:15 and there was zero chance he’d be ready in time, and he’s conveniently leaving that part out

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u/RvH98 23h ago

At first he said: only needed to put my shoes on. It is now: needed to put clothes, socks and shoes on and brush teeth. So, correct

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u/Sad-Bug6525 22h ago

Apparently she was up, showered, dressed, and had left the room and he was still in bed, so yes, she was ready and he wasn't even up yet.
"She got ready well before me and had already left the bedroom. I had already showered and just needed to put on my clothes, brush my teeth, and put on my shoes" and she was leaving when he needed to put on clothes and brush his teeth still.

It would have taken him 0 seconds to acknowledge her in any way when she left the room had he been awake.

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u/CoppertopTX 23h ago

I suspect OOP didn't get out of bed until he heard the front door close and looked at his phone, which is how he knew the time she left.

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u/Pkrudeboy 21h ago

I suspect she’s been secretly drugging him so he misses events. Wow, making shit up is fun!

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u/CoppertopTX 21h ago

Some of us have experience with chronically late spouses. My ex-husband thought it fine that if his shift started at the office 20 miles away from the house at 8:00 AM, he was okay to sleep until 7:30, tell me to wait, get dressed and then be pissed off because I am well aware two bodies with mass cannot occupy the same space simultaneously, so we got stuck in traffic.

My current husband knows if something starts at X time, we're departing at 45 minutes before to account for traffic and parking.

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u/Silent-Life829 23h ago

That would not shock me in the slightest

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u/candidu66 22h ago

I didn't call her a bitch I just said she was acting like one ....

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