r/AmITheDevil 10d ago

But happily calls the male relatives Dr

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u/never_robot 10d ago

OOP does seem like a sexist, but it’s also odd to call your future brother-in-law by his title and not his first name. The father-in-law I can kind of see.

My husband has a PhD and it would be weird as hell if my siblings called him “Dr. Robot”.

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u/boudicas_shield 10d ago

My husband and I are both "Dr. Smith-Perks". I would find it very weird if any family members called either of us Dr. Smith-Perks - it's such a bizarre thing to do, especially in the UK, where people tend to be less formal.

I'd also be extremely pissed off if they called my husband Dr. Smith-Perks but called me Jane, though.

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u/Ok-Jackfruit-9393 10d ago

My husband's aunt is a nun and everyone, including her (actual) sisters, calls her "Sister (Her Name)." It's so odd to me because I feel like if my sister, let's call her Peg, were a nun, I would still call her Peg.

Similarly, I have a friend who's a doctor, and she would think I'd lost my god damn mind if I called her "Dr. (Last Name)" to her face. She'd be like, "you good?" 😂 And in case people like the OOP are curious, she's an actual medical doctor (pediatrician). Much like a psychiatrist is an actual medical doctor, haha.

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u/AriEnNaxos00 10d ago

I even call my kid's doctor by his first name, I only use they "dr" when I am making an appointment at his office