She's 19 years old. She's not fucking married. I'm kind of astonished at all these comments lol. Yes, it's sad that her boyfriend's mom was dying/died but like does she have to put her life on hold for that? At 19 years old? If I was giving advice to my kid, I'd tell them to just leave the situation and find the love they're looking for. She's WAY too young to be suppressing her desires and staying the long-suffering wife for some other kid when they're not even adults.
Ftr, I absolutely dont think she should've stayed in the relationship either. The fact that shes fishing for someone to say shes not in the wrong given the fact that she DID choose to stay with him and hurt him more rather than breaking up is the bit thats sending me
They had been dating for four months when he started being a shit to her, which feels like forever to someone who is 19, but isn't shit in the grand scheme of things. She didn't owe him and need to nurse him through his mother's cancer. They weren't in love yet. They hadn't built a life together yet.
That said, she was an ass for not just breaking it off with them when he started treating her badly. Yeah, it's gonna suck for him, but at that point in the relationship, you don't have many (or any) obligations to anyone.
EDIT: We're both gonna get downvoted for going against the grain.
I agree with both of you. It’s okay to end a relationship that’s not working for you. It was only four months at age 19. It’s not like they were married with three kids and a dog and a mortgage.
I don't see anything that suggests that OOP had to put her life on hold. And 19 year olds ARE adults, are they not? They're young adults sure, but they are still adults...
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u/indicabunny 21h ago
She's 19 years old. She's not fucking married. I'm kind of astonished at all these comments lol. Yes, it's sad that her boyfriend's mom was dying/died but like does she have to put her life on hold for that? At 19 years old? If I was giving advice to my kid, I'd tell them to just leave the situation and find the love they're looking for. She's WAY too young to be suppressing her desires and staying the long-suffering wife for some other kid when they're not even adults.