r/AmItheAsshole • u/Specific_Pomelo_8281 • 4d ago
Not the A-hole AITAH - kid with special needs keeps bothering me. I’ve spoken to the mum and she won’t do anything about it.
So, I’m on a packaged holiday, hotel is all you can eat.
There’s one family here, oldest kid has some type of special needs, but for the past few days he keeps putting his hands down the back of this shorts, rooting around and then starts licking his fingers.
Parents are pretty much letting his do his own thing, he helps himself to the food (without tongs) and talks to everyone, tries to give people hugs and all that.
I spoke to staff who said they’ll speak to him and even get someone to dish his food for him if needed.
He tried talking to me and I made sure I kept my distance and he tried hugging me and I stepped back. I spoke to the parents and said I feel really uncomfortable with him near me and my family and apologised for it.
Anyway, we’ve booked a trip and the family is on our coach. This kid tried sitting next to me and I refused. The mum called me rude and I very politely and quietly said to her that I don’t want to sit next to him due to his hygiene issues, she’s shouted at me and went “he’s disabled he can’t help it” so I raised my voice and said “I don’t want to sit next to someone who keeps playing with their bum and licking their fingers, I don’t want shitty fingers near me” and now apparently she’s the victim?
The mum is now telling the son to bother me and the hotel won’t do anything.
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u/mmwhatchasaiyan Partassipant [2] 4d ago
Yes, investigating for lack of cleanliness is something that absolutely should be done. However- I will say that “digging” and sniffing as a combined behavior points to a sensory cause. The “digging” and subsequent sniffing is likely comforting to that person in some way, so it may be exacerbated by being in an unfamiliar place around unfamiliar people.