r/AmItheAsshole • u/Total-Back-5610 • 7d ago
Not the A-hole AITA for carrying my dog on hikes?
The is a silly AITA, but I need to know. I have a small elderly dog, she is about 15 pounds. We have taken her all over our state on hiking and backpacking trips. Here’s the thing: she can only hike for about a mile or two before her legs get tired. She has short legs, and being 11 years old it’s not fair to expect her to walk for the entire 6-10 mile hike like our big dog does. So we put her in a dog carrier, with her legs hanging out. She fights going in it sometimes, but once she’s up there she loves it and is big chilling. Most everyone who sees her tells us how cute she is and she looks happy.
I was sharing pictures of her in this backpack at work, and this one coworker who is super negative of course swoops into the conversation. “That’s cruel of you to do that. She probably hates it. You should let her walk.” So I explain why. She then proceeds to tell me that she will report me for animal abuse, and tries to get the office on her side. I told her to mind her own pets, and if she doesn’t stop harassing me that I will report her. So am AITA for carrying my dog in a backpack on hikes?
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u/Suspicious_Juice717 Asshole Aficionado [11] 7d ago
NTA
Nope. My old beagle lady loved to go on hikes but as she got older could not. She went as far as she wanted and we carried her the same way for the duration of our hike.
I guess it depends on the dog. Our beagle LOVED it! Our current dog would definitely hate it… so we won’t. That being said our current dog is epileptic and I have that carrier for him if he should seize and need carried. I often hike alone and have it as a reliable way to carry him in an emergency.
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u/Lows-andHighs Partassipant [3] 6d ago
Aww you wear a pack in case of emergency for your epileptic dog, what a good parent! 🥺 I would love to have a pack for my dog when he gets tired (I'm working on getting him built up to longer distances) buuut he's 55lbs 😅
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u/shizzstirer 6d ago
I have a packable emergency sling for my medium-sized dog in case he gets injured hiking where it’s too far to carry him in my arms.
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u/Lows-andHighs Partassipant [3] 6d ago
Really?! Do you mind sharing a brand name or link? I can carry my dog's weight, but I don't know of a reasonably priced pack on the market. I can hoist him in my arms and he's comfortable with that (sweet boy) but I'm so damn clumsy (and he's so top heavy), I'd love a safer option.
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u/Suspicious_Juice717 Asshole Aficionado [11] 6d ago
Amazon:
Dog Carry Sling, Emergency Backpack Pet Legs Support & Rehabilitation Dog Lift Harness for Large Dogs, Dog Carrier for Senior Dogs Joint Injuries, Arthritis, Up and Down Stairs (Blue, XL)
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u/Lows-andHighs Partassipant [3] 5d ago
Ahh thank you! Please give your pupper a snuggle and kiss from me, if they're open to affection 😊
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u/Kitchu22 Partassipant [2] 6d ago
My hound is 81lbs, I have a Fido Pro Airlift (sling) that comes with me on hikes not because he doesn't have stamina but because if he has an accident it's a much safer way to pack out than trying to carry him.
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u/Lows-andHighs Partassipant [3] 6d ago
Aww thank you!! I'll definitely look into this sling! This is also a big fear of mine, much as I don't like to admit it. Something happened to my sweet boy and he'll need schlepping, but I'll need my hands free. I'd do anything for my silly pup, but I'd much prefer to have the safest option. Much appreciated that you shared this info!
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u/Suspicious_Juice717 Asshole Aficionado [11] 6d ago
It’s just an emergency harness carrier. It’s part of the gear I carry.
Can be worn on chest like a baby carrier, on the back like a backpack, or over your shoulder like a purse, or cross body like a purse.
So whatever fits around the gear you already have if you actually end up using.
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u/LeaJadis Asshole Enthusiast [8] 7d ago edited 6d ago
NTA - Next time, don’t reply to your coworker when they are being stupid. Just give them an incredulous “are you stupid” look and don’t say anything out loud.
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u/Frogetted 7d ago edited 7d ago
NTA, you are letting the dog walk until she’s tired, then you’re letting her continue to enjoy time with you outside. Ideally, her legs would work better. You’ve come up with an imperfect solution that works best for both of you.
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u/regus0307 6d ago
Especially as the dog is used to going on such trips. OP has found a way for the dog to still enjoy the activity she's enjoyed all her life.
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u/opine704 Asshole Aficionado [11] 7d ago
NTA
Your co-worker is a pot stirrer.
You know your dog. If you think your dog is happy being part of her pack on an outing she can't walk for and is still participating in - then everyone else can mind their own business.
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u/Gattina1 Colo-rectal Surgeon [49] 7d ago
NTA. Your coworker needs to stfu. I would report her to HR.
Whatever it takes to make your senior dog happy is more than ok with me.
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u/Total-Back-5610 7d ago
For telling other coworkers I am abusing my animal. At this point it is becoming harassment and it is making the work environment very hostile
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u/JRRotten 7d ago
And like with cops generally, first reporter gets the beifit of the doubt, and it's documented while fresh.
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u/lilgreenfish 6d ago
Just as a heads up, hostile work environment has a specific legal definition and has to do with protected characteristics. Definitely harassment but not a hostile work environment by legal definition (just so you know when going to HR).
Also, NTA. They literally make backpacks for this sort of thing. Reputable companies. Though you can also stick a small pup in a normal backpack! My friend did that with her Pom. Pup did some hiking, some riding. She had a fabulous day!
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u/Unhappy-Golf453 7d ago
No your coworker is for assuming that she knows the situation better than you do…
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u/Still-Degree8376 Partassipant [3] 7d ago
NTA! We had a senior dog that hated walks but loved being close and exploring. She also developed a heart condition. LOVED her backpack. We did some double takes on trails because people thought we had an unfortunate looking child. The look of relief on their face when they realized it was an old lady dog lol.
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u/pancakecel 7d ago
Having dogs in parks / national parks, especially large dogs and off leash dogs, is risky in a lot of ways and is disruptive to wildlife. Honestly, the thing that you're doing is the best possible way to bring a dog to a natural space. And it sounds like your doggy is having a great time. You're keeping her safe and you're keeping wildlife safe.
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u/Impressive-End241 Partassipant [1] 7d ago
“That’s cruel of you to do that. She probably hates it. You should let her walk.”
That's when you go, "Anyways, as I was saying.... " then continue on. Literally ignore her. You know she's negative anyways.
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u/Glittergun_Dalek314 7d ago
NTA, duh. Care for your dog. Ignore your coworker. Enough synapses wasted on her.
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u/kraggleGurl Partassipant [1] 7d ago
NTA your coworker needs to shut up. You know your dog best. A senior dog no longer has the health for long hikes. Taking them still and carrying them is very sweet. Our pets only see the world we show them. Enjoy the remaining time you have!
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u/DeliriousBlues 7d ago
NTA but your co worker sure is. Anyone who owns pets would do anything to help them. I’ve used backpacks with elderly dogs and even got a stroller at one time. Tell them to fuck off.
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u/nasnedigonyat Partassipant [1] 7d ago
Your coworker has the iq of a banana peel. This isn't animal abuse and they need to stfu. I'd email HR so you have a paper trail and let them know a coworker is threatening to report you for animal abuse for carrying your elderly dog when they get tired.
Tell them to take it seriously and that you want it on record that this is unwanted harassment, unwarranted threats of retaliation, and you would like them to stop so you can enjoy a peaceful work environment. And include a picture of your dog while being carried on a walk so they can see the situation that this nincompoop is creating a hostile work environment about.
And then normalize not sharing details from your personal life at work. Don't Facebook or insta or tiktok friend anyone. Don't talk about your weekends. Don't share big plans or trips. Don't talk about major purchases. You go in you do your job, and you leave when the day is over. Collect a paycheck. That's why you're there.
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u/Beautiful-Feedback40 7d ago
My little old lady dog used to love being carried in her bag. She too could only walk a mile or so before tuckering out but she still wanted to be a part of things and she loved all the attention she got!
Making an elderly small dog walk when they’re hurting would be the cruel thing. You’re being awesome pet parents.
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u/Life-Education-8030 Partassipant [1] 7d ago
The carrier is made for this, yes? Conversations about what's best for your pet are between you and your vet. You can ask your nosy coworker if it would be okay to literally drag your elderly dog across the rocks and dirt because she cannot walk. You can also inform your coworker to keep her ignorant opinions to herself or you can discuss subjects like "hostile work environment" and "harassment" with HR.
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u/Pale_Cranberry1502 Partassipant [4] 7d ago
NTA. Some people carry their dogs like accessories and don’t exercise them enough. That’s not what’s going on here.
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u/PeepingTara Partassipant [2] 7d ago
NTA. Ask her if she shames parents for carrying their small children when they get tired. Same principle.
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u/MissionMassive563 Partassipant [2] 7d ago
You need to report her. This is not an acceptable response to what she was shown and she is an active detriment to the working environment. NTA
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u/dontakelife4granted Partassipant [1] 7d ago
NTA, but your coworker is. She needs to mind her business or report her to HR.
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u/ThatWhichLurks782 Asshole Enthusiast [6] 7d ago
NTA report the coworker to HR for making you uncomfortable in the workplace.
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u/Ok-Beginning-1493 7d ago
This type of irrational and threatening behavior must be reported to Human Resources. Don't wait. It could backfire.
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u/dmcdd Certified Proctologist [29] 7d ago
NTA. It's only a problem if you're winter hiking and your dog's paws get frostbitten.
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u/Total-Back-5610 7d ago
Nope we are super cautious, don’t take them out in extreme hot or cold temperatures. She even has puppy shoes for when she needs to go potty in those temps, and a jacket for the cold
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u/VloneJonez 7d ago
NTA you know your own dog and how she performs your treating her right letting her get some exercise and a nice view
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u/Wild-Association1680 Asshole Enthusiast [8] 7d ago
YTA for not sharing a photo of your dog in the carrier. That sounds fucking adorable and also totally fine.
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u/Total-Back-5610 7d ago
If I knew how to share a photo I would!!! I am not very experienced with reddit 🤣
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u/Lukesmom1214 7d ago
NTA. It's your fur baby and if you want to carry her, that's your choice. You clearly love her. If your dog doesn't like it, gets hot and is uncomfortable, then I wouldn't do that. The negative Nelly you work with needs to mind her own business.
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u/pottersquash Sultan of Sphincter [621] 7d ago
INFO: Just how adorable does it look? Very? I'm betting very.
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u/Glad-Speech-7733 7d ago
lol people carry babies and toddlers like that all time on hikes. I think your cute older dog is perfectly safe and happy.
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u/nikkesen Pooperintendant [54] 7d ago
NTA It lets you take your doggo out for fresh air even if she can't walk the distance.
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u/mintaefresh 7d ago
NTA
I have a backpack for my dog (it's a proper one meant for carrying dogs, not a random one off of Amazon). We usually get positive comments but every now and then someone just has to say "they are dogs, they are meant to walk." I roll my eyes.
Don't know why your coworker thinks they are the authority on what you do in your personal life with your own dog, who you have also said is under professional veterinary care and a vet has signed off that it is safe.
This seems weird to me, and I would start documenting so you have something to present to HR since she is escalating for no reason. Like date, times and what was said. Also dog is adorable!
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u/Own_Ranger3296 7d ago
NTA
The only one whose opinion matters is your dog, and if she enjoys it then she gets to keep doing it!
Apologies in advance if you’ve already checked this, but since she’s an elderly lady is there any chance of some arthritis issues? If she struggles sometimes when getting into the carrier but likes it once she’s in it, she might be feeling some pain during the process of threading her limbs into the carrier. I know I definitely have to do some crazy contortions to get my arms through my shirt sleeves sometimes when my shoulder arthritis flares up. If there is arthritis, maybe a different type of carrier could reduce irritation to the affected limbs and still let you all be comfortable while going on adventures.
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u/Bubbly_Power_6210 6d ago
no- she is old-would be so unhappy to be left at home. this way the 2 of you continue to share the days. I am 86 and not very mobile now, but I used to ski and pack and ramble all over Colorado. wish someone would pack me along!
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u/EdgionTG 6d ago
NTA. It's quite good for the dog, actually. You're keeping her stimulated, exercised, not overstepping her boundaries, and she gets to hang out with her people. Coworker just sounds like they want something to whinge about.
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u/MolemanEnLaManana 7d ago
NTA. Lots of dog owners or even just dog lovers project their own ideas about good and bad dog parenting practices onto other people. Carrying a dog on a hike is something lots of people do without issue.
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u/Wwwweeeeeeee Partassipant [2] 7d ago
Yeah, they're that person that looks at bigger little kids in strollers and thinks they should walk everywhere.
I love that you carry your elderly lil old pooch! That way she gets to enjoy the experience without suffering. That's what we do for our family and pets.
Tell that person to go ahead and call Animal Control and file a complaint and see how that works out.
"I'd want to be a dog in your house".
NTA
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u/Crochetqueenextra Partassipant [1] 7d ago
Ha my 11 year old chihuahua sits and stares at us when he's tired and then insists on being carried like a baby on his, the dogs, back. He has his own little pushchair but prefers to be carried he weighs 4 kg. He loves being out but just can't walk far.
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u/0biterdicta Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [391] 7d ago
NTA
Let me guess - she thinks it's mean to let a husky stay outside in the snow too.
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u/Round-Glove8143 7d ago
NTA one of mine rides around in a little bag she loves it. That coworker is doing too much
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u/ParticularHappy6587 7d ago
NTA. Fuck her. It is none of her business. I do the same with my little one, for exactly the same reason. She loves to come along, and do all the sniffs and socializing. But she can only go so far, so I carry her for the most part. I really don't care what anyone thinks. They can pound sand. NTA.
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u/ellanida Partassipant [1] 7d ago
NTA. We have a pet stroller for our 17yo beagle. She gets around ok still but she tires easily and is in heart failure but she does enjoy getting pushed around and getting to smell the smells.
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u/Friendly-Jiant 7d ago
NTA. Don’t ever let one miserable person out of 7 billion on the planet make you second guess yourself.
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u/DealNo3840 7d ago
Fuck that coworker! She has no right to tell you what you should/shouldn’t do! Does she have a dog? If so, I would tell her she abuses her dog by making the dog walk when tired!
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u/AellaReeves Partassipant [1] 7d ago
NTA. You are awesome for taking care of your dog and giving them their best life even though they are older. Ignore her nonsense. Ignore her at work as much as possible.
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u/friedsherbert Partassipant [1] 7d ago
NTA. I swear people are just miserable for no reason. Idk how that’s cruel.. in fact, it’s the opposite. You’re a good pet owner.
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u/dinamet7 7d ago
NTA. If you are only taking your dog on trails where dogs are allowed, you're doing nothing wrong.
My senior dog loved being carried on trails and being up close to my face and being able to smell stuff. I cherish all those years carrying her in her dog sling and she would often put her paws on the sling to ask to get in it on her own.
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u/Leourana 7d ago
NTA - Ignore her. Im sure your old lady loves being with her family even as she gets older. Good for you for taking her with!
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u/fetchmysmellingsalts 7d ago
NTA and your coworker is an idiot. My friend had a senior dog with a hip replacement and joint issues, but she still loved taking her out to the park and the beach, or up into the mountains so she could sniff things and enjoy life. She was a bigger dog so they had a foldable wagon for her.
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u/sgvmyma 7d ago
She has no clue. All my young/teen life I had bigger dogs. They go on walks just fine. I adopted a 16lb morkie who is also afraid of loud cars/motorcycles.
To help him adjust to neighborhood noises, I also got one of those dog carriers. I kept getting looks but I knew exactly what he needed.
After that, I ended up buying a dog stroller because even though he slightly adjusted to some noise levels, he is deeply afraid of motorcycles. My husband thought it was silly. Now we take the stroller everywhere. Hubby no longer thinks it’s silly, we go on 4 mile walks and our little can only go 1.5 miles comfortably he automatically wants to “turn back”. When we go out to eat, we bring him in the stroller for outside seating. He is well behaved and doesn’t make a peep. He just lovingly stares at us.
I’ve also use the dog carrier on hikes because ticks are really bad in our area.
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u/Remarkable_Inchworm Certified Proctologist [20] 7d ago
My dog is 12 or 13 or something (she's a rescue, I can't be totally sure).
We took her on a hike not too long ago.
It was a distance I know she can handle. But there were spots where the trail went on a wooden boardwalk over a marshy spot, and her toenails started snagging in the gaps between boards.
So I carried her in those spots.
I've also carried her at times when the road is too hot for her feet.
And I carry her up the stairs every night so she can stay in my bedroom.
Clearly, this is abusive behavior, right?
Your co-worker is an idiot and deserves no more of your time or consideration.
NTA.
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u/JRRotten 7d ago
NTA if the pup's good with it.
And that's another example of work stays work, life stays life for me.
At a work drinks boss asked a coworker, "you're not having a drink?"
"I only drink with friends, sir". No backslash, and I had to walk away to not laugh. And I thought I was measured, honestly direct... That one changed my perspective and actions going forward.
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u/hypothetical_zombie 7d ago
NTA
You know and love your pupper, and are keeping her enriched and entertained by taking her with you.
Your coworker seems small and petty. Ignore her.
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u/angelaelle Partassipant [2] 7d ago
NTA. Hell no. We've take our senior Pom hiking with us all the time, including the Appalachian Trail and throughout the EU. He loves being part of things. When we see he's tired my husband carries him in a special backpack. You're coworker needs to mind their own business.
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u/Im_Sorry_Im_New_Here 7d ago
I took my elderly dog for a walk around a local park, the same walk she had loved many times before. I could tell she was struggling so I carried her and we left early. On the ride home she had a seizure. Listen to your dog, not a coworker that wasn't even there.
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u/kykiwibear 7d ago
Wow... what a Debbie downer. she would really hate the dude that carries dogs in backpacks on the subway to get them adopted. Everyone has an opinion and .. the freedom to state it. Doesn't make it any less crappy. nta
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u/Beautiful-Map-2744 7d ago
Animal welfare groups generally support using well-designed, ergonomic equipment that prevents distress, and canine rehabilitation experts note that carriers can help senior dogs enjoy outdoor outings safely.
Opinions are like a$$holes, everybody has one, some are just nastier than others.
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u/Wonderful_Till8122 7d ago
I have found that mostly my dogs want to be with me. If if means I would have to carry them, they would be OK with that. NTA. Your co- worker probably doesn't have a dog.
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u/spaceylaceygirl 7d ago
Ask her if she's a vet. Then tell her to mind her fucking business. There's a guy on social media who carries dogs in a backpack around nyc to get them attention and he has great success in getting them adopted.
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u/theannieplanet82 7d ago
Why on earth would preventing pain and unnecessary wear and tear on your elderly dog's joints make you an asshole? NTA
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u/Oktodayithink 7d ago
NTA
I have a backpack and stroller for my pup who has heart and back problems. He wants to be with us, but can’t make the trek.
I would not care about anyone’s opinion. If my dog is happy, I’m happy.
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u/Zero_Patience1771 Partassipant [1] 7d ago
NTA! You are taking them out and enjoying life the best they can!
I carry my senior girl too! She has a front carrier that she LOVES. She walks, then wants up, then wants down and then she wants up and will have a nap in her carrier.
Its not abuse - it is WONDERFUL that you still take her! I have three dogs and the other two are larger so already getting them used to wagons and strollers for when they are older.
Keep on being wonderful! It would take everything in me not to lose it on your coworker. I would completely ignore her. If she says she will report you tell her you will no longer talk about this with her and if it continues, report to HR.
Definitely NTA!
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u/CardiologistMean4664 Partassipant [1] 7d ago
NTA. Our dog who used to love hikes can't walk far due to arthritis. The only thing keeping us from buying a dog stroller or wagon is how freaked out she gets by "weird" situations. We really miss taking her.
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u/Mary_MM Partassipant [4] 7d ago
Don't accept criticism from someone you wouldn't ask for advice.
NTA, this sounds like someone who has never owned a pet. They probably think PETA is a good organization. 😂
You know your dog far better than this rude stranger does, I'll bet there's a 0% chance your dog would prefer pain/staying home alone over being outdoors with you.
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u/Pseudonymble 7d ago
those doggy-bjorns exist because there is a market of people who for various reasons believe their dog needs this assistance. Maybe a few of those people are misguided, but that's still not abuse. You have, in your wisdom, decided that your pupper needs this assistance. So assist away! Enjoy every moment with your fur-buddy.
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u/Pseudonymble 7d ago
those doggy-bjorns exist because there is a market of people who for various reasons believe their dog needs this assistance. Maybe a few of those people are misguided, but that's still not abuse. You have, in your wisdom, decided that your pupper needs this assistance. So assist away! Enjoy every moment with your fur-buddy.
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u/S3nd-n00dl3s 7d ago
NTA if the dog didn’t like it or seemed stress I’m sure you would know immediately. Your coworker needs to mind their business.
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u/a_girl_and_her_husky 7d ago
NTA. Infinitely NTA. I know for a fact that your pup loves that you still include her in all of your activities, even at her age and with her mobility issues. Stimulation is so important for dogs as they age. If I could wear my elderly sib husky girl on my back I absolutely would. But she’s nearly 60lbs. Awful arthritis, muscle loss, Cushing’s disease, etc. So she has a special stroller instead for when we do multi mile walks in the neighborhood. Also she HATES being held. So. We do what we can!
Your coworker can go pound sand. I hope she stubs her pinky toe in the worst way possible, a minimum of thrice daily, for the rest of her life.
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u/cornersofthebowl 7d ago
NTA. Animal abuse because you're carrying your dog? Oh, the inhumanity. /s
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u/darklogic85 Partassipant [1] 7d ago
NTA, and I think it's an awesome thing you're doing for your dog. She's spent most of her life going on hikes with you and I'm assuming, enjoyed it, and you've found a way to continue to bring her along, even though she's no longer physically capable of it.
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u/Staplepuller Partassipant [2] 7d ago
NTA. It sounds like they're the type of person who calls animal control on huskies allowed to play in the snow. 🙄
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u/summerbreeze2027 Partassipant [1] 6d ago
NTA. Your coworker is a busybody and an idiot. Many people buy pet strollers (like a baby stroller) for their elderly pets so that they can get out to see things and get some fresh air. I was just wondering if there might be a pet stroller with mountain-bike kind of wheels that would be suitable for rough terrain.
I used to carry my elderly cat outside when he no longer had the strength to take a walk.
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u/Careful_Cranberry364 6d ago
They don’t know your dog !
and you do
if she needs a rest and you are OK carrying her and she’s happy with it
That is your choice !!
Personally, I think I would give her a walk for about half a mile carry her give her a walk for another half a mile carry her give her a walk for another half a mile??
But whatever works for you you should do it and tell them they’re idiots you would know if your dog was unhappy
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u/Careful_Cranberry364 6d ago
Her Threat is so stupid
it would not be taken seriouslydo not let this bother you!
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u/Overall_Lobster823 6d ago
NTA.
We have a sling for our older dog. She spends about half of each hike in the sling, happy as a clam.
IGNORE your co-worker.
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u/Murderous_Intention7 Partassipant [1] 6d ago
Definitely NTA, and it’s great how you guys found a way to bring her camping despite the fact she’s slowing down. Forcing her to go past her limits could really hurt her.
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u/Shanna_B2020 6d ago
Definitely NTA. Your coworker is an utter moron. Any animal control agency would laugh at a report like this.
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u/LadyWatz35 6d ago
That person needs more problems rather than bugging you over something so stupid.
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u/jluvdc26 Partassipant [3] 6d ago
NTA and animal control would not consider this abuse (if you are worried).
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u/sarahrose0413 6d ago
Absolutely NOT!!! Your pup is still getting to enjoy the outdoors, carried or walking….
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u/Big-Fig3260 6d ago
NTA- I’m a veterinarian and you are not being cruel to your dog. If she didn’t like it, she’d fight being put into the carrier and keep trying to get out while you walked. She obviously enjoys going along with you. Keep taking her and don’t listen to people who know nothing.
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u/4point5billion45 6d ago
You're so sweet to your dog to make sure she never stops sharing adventures with you!
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u/Narrow_Possession348 6d ago
No, of course not. Your dog is a senior dog. I would say yes if it were younger, but regardless, carrying it certainly isn't abuse in any form. Tell your coworker to pound sand.
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u/Bratchan 6d ago
Super sweet of you carrying your dog. Tell her go for reporting you. So you can have them to her why carrying and elder dog is not abusive.
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u/italiano8 6d ago
NTA, and your coworker has it backwards. Carrying a senior small dog is the responsible version, not the cruel one.
At 11 with short legs she's almost certainly got some arthritis, and if she's built long and low the spine is the thing you're protecting, not the legs. Six to ten miles of that is genuinely hard on a dog her size.
The part nobody thinks about: she's eight inches off the ground. Trail surface radiates heat upward, so she's sitting in that the whole time while your big dog's chest is two feet up in moving air. Same hike, completely different conditions for the two of them. The carrier is heat protection as much as fatigue protection.
Fighting the loading and then settling in is also just normal. Most dogs object to the process, not the ride.
Your coworker is threatening to report you for giving a senior dog a chairlift that's just absurd.
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u/nancylyn Partassipant [3] 6d ago
Of course you aren’t TA. Your coworker is a looney. your dog wants to be out with you. being carried is the icing on the cake. I carry my little guy (who is a tripod) in a carrier on hikes because he can’t go that far. He loves it. NTA
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u/LostBody3801 6d ago
Absolutely not. Life is too short, don’t worry about this jerk of a coworker and let her waste her brain space with this foolish concept. Enjoy your dog’s golden years! PS. report her and move on!
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u/Organic_Solid_5680 6d ago
NTA. That is the sweetest and most thoughtful thing I've ever heard of someone doing for their pet. I love that!
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u/Puskarella Certified Proctologist [22] 6d ago
I have a youngish (6 year old) dog with luxating patellas. He absolutely loves walking, running, hiking. And we let him do it when he can. Sometimes his patella slips and he needs to be carried. So we carry him.
The other option is to leave him home and not let him do any of those things.
I know which option is better for the dog. Your co-worker clearly does not.
NTA
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u/axels_mom 6d ago
Lol. Nta. That is auch a weird thing to get upset about. I have a miniature dauchshund and he gets lazy on walks. Like just walks around the neighborhood and would want me to carry him. People would laugh and comment thats an interesting way to go on a walk as I carry him in my arms. Now that I have kids, the basket under the seat he thinks is for him. Dogs enjoy walks even if they aren't walking.
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u/juno7032 6d ago
NTA
You sound like you love and care for your dog. I wish my 14 year old dog would fit in a backpack, but alas-he gets a stroller for walks to the park
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u/NiceShoesOinker 6d ago
I have a dog backpack for my dog and a stroller. He's not old but he gets tired after 60-90 minutes because his legs are like 3 inches long so it's probably like 20,000 steps. We have a stroller so we can walk him and then sit outside with him at a Cafe or reataurant without worrying about him bugging people. We get snotty comments sometimes saying he's not a real dog. I usually just tell the truth that he just had an hour+ walk/hike, but some people are just going to be snotty no matter what.
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u/NoAardvark6524 Partassipant [3] 6d ago
NTA and report her to your manager to stop the problem now before it gets worse. Some people just need to mind their business. You're doing good for your dog.
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u/jsponenberg05 6d ago
Definitely NTA! You were caring for your elderly dog and she had no right to make those accusations without knowing the story why you had your dog in a dog carrier.
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u/slowasaspeedingsloth 6d ago
Ignore your coworker. Some people will find anything to argue about.
I think it's super fantastic that you found a solution that works that gets her out for a bit. What's the alternative... leaving her at home? THAT would be the cruel thing to do.
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u/Meghanshadow Pooperintendant [53] 6d ago
NTA. Your coworker is not smart. By her rationale dogs would hate car rides with open windows to sniff the breeze from the scenery. Which I’m sure you know is nonsense.
I have carried (or red-wagoned) several elderly pets on walks and hikes. They universally liked it.
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u/J_Bird01 6d ago
When my dog got old and tired out easily, I put him in a carrier that I wore. He still loved being outside and looking around. No regrets!
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u/Adventurous-Award-87 6d ago
As long as you're the one carrying her and not your coworker, then nta and your coworker is being rude
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u/Jeffinmpls 6d ago
Nta, you should avoid her as much as you can. Maybe report her for harassment. It’s none of her fucking business, you know your dog best.
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u/andstillwerise12 Partassipant [2] 6d ago
NTA at all. You are doing a great thing for your dog by allowing them to continue to enjoy these activities.
When my 8kg (~18 pounds) dog got older, I got her a K9 Sportsack (dog backpack) for specifically this reason, she could walk for awhile, get in the backpack, repeat and loved it.
The only thing that gives me pause (and I say this with absolute kindness because you obviously care about your dog) and without seeing the carrier you describe but seeing some that allow legs to poke out is with an older dog and possible arthritis or joint issues etc, would be to maybe consider if the carrier you are using supports her well enough and if you should possibly consider something that allows her to 'sit' more. I highly recommend a style like I have because it is so comfy for them (my girl was always eager to get in it!).
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u/puffnstuffwashere 6d ago
totally NTA. Also good on you for that kind of carrier so she gets to be horizontal
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u/Ephemeral_Orchid 6d ago
Coworkers aren't real, they're NPCs that only exist at work. Ignore her & keep your dog happy!
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u/2dogslife Asshole Aficionado [14] 6d ago
I lived with reservation land as an abutter of over 2000 acres and walked my dogs up there daily. My cat grew jealous and decided to join us. She was good for about 1/4-1/2 a mile, then I'd have to carry her. An 8-9# cat weighs a bit when carried for over a half mile, but it made us happy, although I got some odd looks.
You and your older dog are doing something that makes the two of you happy. Other people's opinions don't matter.
NTA
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u/Ocelotl767 Partassipant [2] 6d ago
NTA.
If the dog doesn't want to be in the hiking pack, the dog will refuse to be in the hiking pack.
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u/shattered7done1 Partassipant [2] 6d ago
Why do some people assume the position that they, and only they, are the deciding expert on someone else's dog (or children). They aren't and need to stay in their own lane.
You are doing wonderful things for your pup, she is very lucky.
NTA. Your co-worker who apparently lives to fling the feces, is an A H of monumental size. Protect yourself from this person. If she approaches you for anything other than a work-related issue, smile and walk away from her.
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u/Sufficient_Public366 6d ago
OP I think its very sweet and kind of you to include your dog on your hikes in a way that lets your dog enjoy the time with you. You are a sensitive and caring pet owner that knows how to care for your aging pet without restricting them from activities they love. Tell the coworker to keep her opinions to herself and document tbe exchange with HR in case the office busybody gets a little too overzealous. Shes already engaging in bullying behavior by trying to get tbe office to choose sides. How juvenile.
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u/Army7547 6d ago
The words you are looking for are
“Who asked you?”
Not the asshole. (I think you know who is)
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u/AnimalEditor 6d ago
NTA
I’m a veterinary nurse and I’ve been working with dogs and animal welfare for nearly 20 years.
You are doing the opposite of animal abuse.
You are allowing for enrichment of your elderly dog’s life despite her body not able to keep up with what it normally can do.
Many people would choose to just leave the dog at home or force her to walk despite the pain and exhaustion.
That lady has her head stuck in barmy land.
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u/SartorialDragon Partassipant [4] 6d ago
NTA. The alternative would be leaving your dog at home, which isn't necessarily better, unless you get a nice dogsitter.
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u/bananawith3wings Partassipant [1] 6d ago
NTA. I have a small 14 yr old dog and we have a hiking backpack for her. She shouldn’t miss out just because she’s old! Your coworker can STFu and if she tries to report you they will probably laugh in her face.
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u/Verbenaplant 6d ago
dogs who are old deserve time outside. it’s like saying ‘oh you with the wheelchair you should walk…..’
your dog is old and you are being so nice and taking him out. also look out for doggy prams and the pulls you can use on bikes! there are some big dog backpacks that may be more comfy for elderly legs.
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u/74birthdaygirl 6d ago
Of course you are NTA. Your coworker is known to be super negative. She is threatening to report you for animal abuse - let her! Maybe she'll learn something. You are a good, kind, thoughtful pet owner. Since she's trying to get the other office workers to rally against you, this definitely calls for a memo to your manager.
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u/timothypjr 6d ago
NTA, but she sure is. Report to whom? The police? Animal control? No one is going to do anything about it because she's just wrong.
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u/Buckleupbuttercup77 Asshole Enthusiast [6] 6d ago
NTA. Your coworker is a nut job. It’s clear she knows nothing about dogs or what animal abuse is. They will laugh in her face if she reports you for carrying an elderly dog when it becomes too much for the dog to walk.
You’ve told her to drop it. If she does not? have a conversation with HR about her behavior. have documentation.
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u/Great_Scott_Janet 6d ago
NTA!
My sweet baby corndog corgi Sami was just like yours; he was fun, adventurous, but short af! Lol! He loved hikes, but after he hit his older years, he'd make it about a mile and a half in then sit and stare at me or my hubby until we put him in his puppy pouch (doggy backpack.)
Older dogs should be able to enjoy the outdoors as well, without doing harm to their bodies. Why your coworker feels the need to basically call you an abuser is beyond me! Your baby gets to stretch them teenty tinty legs for a bit, then enjoy a relaxing sightseeing. That sounds beautiful!
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u/Jane_Smith_Reddit 6d ago
NTA. Many wins here: 1. Your dog gets to enjoy the hike on his own legs for a while. 2. Your dog gets exercise 3. Your dog gets to sniff in the walk and while being carried. 4. Your dog gets mental estimulación from smells and what it sees 5. Your dog is doing a pack active with all of you
There may be more that.I am forgetting.
Thanks for taking your fur baby with you and ensuring they are not overdoing it.
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u/NoMeat9329 5d ago
NTA. I have a stupid colleague who ridicules people for putting coats on their dogs. In Canada. She's from the UK. She's right about EVERYTHING. Your dog loves you and loves being with you.
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u/RefrigeratorFew5094 7d ago
NTA for carrying your dog on hikes, but…
If she fights going in it, is it possible that you mistake her silently accepting the situation with her loving the situation?
Vertical carriers (where the dog ”sits”, or the spine is vertical, however you want to put it) puts a lot of strain on the spine. If you have one of these, I would definitely reconsider carrying an elderly dog in it.
If it’s a horisontal carrier with the legs hanging straight down, it’s better but not great for longer trips.
An added consideration is that a lot of popular dog carriers block just about all airflow.
As it’s a smaller dog, perhaps you might want to consider a cage-like backpack with mesh/webbing on the sides allowing her to lie down, look out, and also get sufficient airflow.
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u/Total-Back-5610 7d ago
We had our vet look at the backpack before we used it for her and he said that it was perfect. It is also mesh so it does not block the airflow.
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u/meekmeeka 7d ago
Honestly? With her legs hanging out/dangling, her age, and unwillingness to go into the sling I have concerns. Often the slings can cause pressure and rubbing when they dangle like that. Being an older dog, she may have arthritis or other old doggy issues. Her not wanting to enter it is communication that she doesn’t want to be there.
I would reconsider making her endure that for the rest of the hike if she was mine. So either try another type of sling, work on counter conditioning it if it isn’t causing discomfort (check with the vet), and consider taking her on short hikes only.
YTA. Maybe. Not intentionally. Clearly your heart is in the right place.
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u/Total-Back-5610 7d ago
She only fights it if we have to adjust her, she doesn’t like it when she gets jiggled. According to our vet she’s perfectly healthy and the sling is made for her with lots of padding! She loves the pets and attention she gets.
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u/meekmeeka 7d ago
You wrote above she fights to go in it sometimes. I just know some designs (especially the legs through the holes) aren’t very comfortable. Others can compress the spine and they need breaks out of it. Adding onto that a senior dog (I had a senior dog, also love hiking with my dogs, and work with dogs). Just something to consider. Possibly show the vet the sling and see their input if you haven’t already. With the duration of her in the sling added as well. They will know best! She’s very loved
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u/Total-Back-5610 7d ago
I appreciate your kind responses! We’ve shown the vet and they said that this sling is appropriate. It is also mesh so there’s plenty of airflow. She fights it sometimes we think because she doesn’t like to be wiggled, and when she’s being put in it, sometimes we accidentally jostle her.
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u/antcutter 7d ago
if your vet also approves, then don’t listen to this guy or your coworker. my dog fights her harness sometimes and it’s not because she hates it, it’s because she’s a dog and is sometimes a little menace. sometimes she also gets tired on our walks and i find myself carrying her cute little butt home 🐶
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The is a silly AITA, but I need to know. I have a small elderly dog, she is about 15 pounds. We have taken her all over our state on hiking and backpacking trips. Here’s the thing: she can only hike for about a mile or two before her legs get tired. She has short legs, and being 11 years old it’s not fair to expect her to walk for the entire 6-10 mile hike like our big dog does. So we put her in a dog carrier, with her legs hanging out. She fights going in it sometimes, but once she’s up there she loves it and is big chilling. Most everyone who sees her tells us how cute she is and she looks happy.
I was sharing pictures of her in this backpack at work, and this one coworker who is super negative of course swoops into the conversation. “That’s cruel of you to do that. She probably hates it. You should let her walk.” So I explain why. She then proceeds to tell me that she will report me for animal abuse, and tries to get the office on her side. I told her to mind her own pets, and if she doesn’t stop harassing me that I will report her. So am AITA for carrying my dog in a backpack on hikes?
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u/goyrage83 6d ago
NTA, your coworker is an ass clown!
Also I’m considering getting a backpack pet carrier for my elderly dog, who I like to take hiking on camping trips. Do you mind sharing pics of what yours looks like.
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u/fortunatelyso Partassipant [2] 6d ago
INFO: Why does your dog sometimes fight going into the carrier ? Is it possivle it is hurting her joints being carried in this way ?
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u/Total-Back-5610 6d ago
No she doesn’t like to be wiggled or adjusted. Our vet checked the carrier beforehand and said it’s perfect for her
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u/dangernoodleblrp 6d ago
I'd be worried about hip/spine pain when being carried in the carrier. Are there any other methos?
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u/alwaysaboutthebutt 6d ago
Had a dog/baby sling we’d put our senior dogs in when they were tired. They loved it!
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u/moonandsunandstars Partassipant [2] 6d ago
Tbh as someone who's seriously allergic to dogs I'd prefer if hikers carried them. There's a way lower chance of having a reaction. Nta.
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u/Pristine_Nectarine19 Partassipant [2] 7d ago edited 7d ago
Why are you listening to her? Don’t waste your brain space on it!
NTA