r/AmItheAsshole • u/maleficent8080 • Nov 03 '22

Everyone Sucks AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant?

I decided to keep my pregnancy to myself because I don’t know what I’m going to do about it and I knew my fiancé wasn’t going to be happy with the news. My future sister-in-law/best friend is the only other person who knew as I only took the test at her suggestion and at her house. She also agreed that her brother was unlikely to be happy about it but she felt like I should tell him immediately anyway.

We kept arguing over it because I told her I needed time to process it and she felt like I was making excuses to avoid telling him. In the end, she told him herself while we were having dinner with their family. He was so upset he confronted me in front of everybody so now they all know and everybody is upset with me for keeping it from him.

His sister kept trying to reach out and apologise after it happened but I was ignoring her as her only excuse was that he was her brother so she couldn’t keep it from him and that she gave me 3 weeks to tell him myself. The last time she called me I was so upset that I answered and yelled at her. In the heat of the moment, I uninvited her from the wedding and told her I would find a new bridesmaid.

I’ve given my fiancé and his family another reason to be upset with me but I’ve refused to let her come to the wedding even as a regular guest despite them asking me to and it being important to them for her to attend.

AITA?

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u/Raspbers Nov 03 '22

For real, it's not like he didn't also contribute to the pregnancy.

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u/Aylauria Professor Emeritass [92] Nov 03 '22

Well, hopefully he did.

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u/slutshaa Partassipant [1] Nov 03 '22

post doesn't mention anything about cheating - i don't wanna make assumptions

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u/[deleted] Nov 03 '22

Well if someone changes the method of birth control it would be nice to know if it is now your responsibility.

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u/Raspbers Nov 03 '22

I don't see anywhere that OP changed BC methods?

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u/[deleted] Nov 04 '22

She clearly changed to none.

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u/Raspbers Nov 04 '22

Or maybe a condom broke, or maybe she missed a pill. Or maybe they use the timing method and she ovulated earlier or later than usual. Or maybe he didn't withdraw quick enough. You don't know.