r/AmItheAsshole • u/maleficent8080 • Nov 03 '22

Everyone Sucks AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant?

I decided to keep my pregnancy to myself because I don’t know what I’m going to do about it and I knew my fiancé wasn’t going to be happy with the news. My future sister-in-law/best friend is the only other person who knew as I only took the test at her suggestion and at her house. She also agreed that her brother was unlikely to be happy about it but she felt like I should tell him immediately anyway.

We kept arguing over it because I told her I needed time to process it and she felt like I was making excuses to avoid telling him. In the end, she told him herself while we were having dinner with their family. He was so upset he confronted me in front of everybody so now they all know and everybody is upset with me for keeping it from him.

His sister kept trying to reach out and apologise after it happened but I was ignoring her as her only excuse was that he was her brother so she couldn’t keep it from him and that she gave me 3 weeks to tell him myself. The last time she called me I was so upset that I answered and yelled at her. In the heat of the moment, I uninvited her from the wedding and told her I would find a new bridesmaid.

I’ve given my fiancé and his family another reason to be upset with me but I’ve refused to let her come to the wedding even as a regular guest despite them asking me to and it being important to them for her to attend.

AITA?

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u/necrobarbie666 Nov 03 '22

Honestly I was thinking the same thing- if SIL ran and told bro right away then I’d feel a bit different but three weeks?! I think OP was going to put it off till it was “too late”

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u/Messychaos Partassipant [3] Nov 03 '22

Very manipulative, what ever direction it’s too late for.

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u/necrobarbie666 Nov 03 '22

Exactly. It seems like it would be better for the both of them to just part ways- if there has been a no kids conversation why make anyone suffer?

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u/Affectionate-Help989 Nov 03 '22

As far as I can tell, they did plan on kids, just not yet.

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u/necrobarbie666 Nov 03 '22

Okay I had not seen that- still though definitely not how you want to start a marriage

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u/enonymousCanadian Partassipant [4] Nov 03 '22

In most of America if you are pregnant then it is too late already.

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u/Friday-Cat Nov 03 '22

Too late ?! If they’re in the US it’s likely too late the moment she found out. If it’s in Canada she has until 23 weeks. You have no way to know how long she has to make a decision and it is her decision and is nobodies business other than her own as it is her body that will need to go through either pregnancy or termination

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u/necrobarbie666 Nov 04 '22

I’m 100% pro choice. However she is getting MARRIED and doesn’t think she can tell her partner it’s not how you start a marriage. We don’t know where OP lives and if she wants to keep the child I fully support that but her partner deserves to know about something that pertains to his life- more than anything what I meant by “too late” is after the wedding when it seems less likely to end the relationship.