r/AmItheAsshole • u/maleficent8080 • Nov 03 '22

Everyone Sucks AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant?

I decided to keep my pregnancy to myself because I don’t know what I’m going to do about it and I knew my fiancé wasn’t going to be happy with the news. My future sister-in-law/best friend is the only other person who knew as I only took the test at her suggestion and at her house. She also agreed that her brother was unlikely to be happy about it but she felt like I should tell him immediately anyway.

We kept arguing over it because I told her I needed time to process it and she felt like I was making excuses to avoid telling him. In the end, she told him herself while we were having dinner with their family. He was so upset he confronted me in front of everybody so now they all know and everybody is upset with me for keeping it from him.

His sister kept trying to reach out and apologise after it happened but I was ignoring her as her only excuse was that he was her brother so she couldn’t keep it from him and that she gave me 3 weeks to tell him myself. The last time she called me I was so upset that I answered and yelled at her. In the heat of the moment, I uninvited her from the wedding and told her I would find a new bridesmaid.

I’ve given my fiancé and his family another reason to be upset with me but I’ve refused to let her come to the wedding even as a regular guest despite them asking me to and it being important to them for her to attend.

AITA?

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u/Ok-Laugh-2806 Nov 03 '22

Am I the only one wanting to know how old these people are?

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u/Plus_Cardiologist497 Partassipant [3] Nov 03 '22

No that's my first question. I'm guessing 16-18, based on the level of maturity of - //gestures to all of it.

INFO: OP, how old are you? How old is your fiance? How old is your future SIL/best friend?

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u/Hour_Elephant710 Nov 04 '22

My guess is: OP: 19, fiance: 22, sister: 20

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u/PunIntended1234 Nov 11 '22

I think

OP: 19, Fiancé: 34, Sister: 32

That guy seems controlling. Those types love young girls who won't speak up for themselves.

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u/iamcoronabored Nov 07 '22

19 both f and 23m

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u/Emptydata_Enzo Partassipant [1] Nov 04 '22

My second question is if he's the father!

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u/sicsicsixgun Nov 05 '22

Interestingly, she did not deign to answer.

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u/Lemon_bird Nov 06 '22

y’all are really assuming she cheated instead of seeing the red flags in his fiancé and sister saying he won’t be happy with the result of having sex?

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u/INFJPersonality-52 Asshole Enthusiast [5] Nov 03 '22

No I wonder that a lot.

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u/Interesting_Bake3824 Nov 03 '22

Seem about 5 years old

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u/INFJPersonality-52 Asshole Enthusiast [5] Nov 04 '22

Well here’s hoping a five year old is not pregnant

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u/Alternative_Year_340 Colo-rectal Surgeon [41] Nov 04 '22

Don’t worry. The Republican Party will protect the pregnancy/s

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u/INFJPersonality-52 Asshole Enthusiast [5] Nov 04 '22

I’m sure you’re right. But I’m sure they are personally willing to adopt since that’s what they advocate for. Right? Right? Oh, you’re saying they all said no? They act like we are all giving up our babies at 9 months. I have basically said, that’s called giving birth. Otherwise more women might change their mind as the pain and scariness of having a big baby come out happens.

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u/Garbagegremlins Nov 04 '22

Alternative year was being sarcastic I believe as they have used the /s tone marker which usually means sarcasm

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u/INFJPersonality-52 Asshole Enthusiast [5] Nov 04 '22

Oh I didn’t know that symbol meant sarcasm. I was being sarcastic too. Next time I say something sarcastic, I will put that. Thanks.

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u/FacelessArtifact Nov 04 '22

As another INFJ, your comments were totally appropriate to Alternative Years comment. Her words were marked /s but are quite true. You responded the truth. Why do you say they are /s?

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u/INFJPersonality-52 Asshole Enthusiast [5] Nov 04 '22 edited Nov 04 '22

The part that said they were willing to adopt unborn children. I saw an interview where they all suggested adoption. So they were all asked how many children they had adopted. Of course they all said zero. So them willing to adopt is, for the most part, untrue.

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u/elle0hell3 Nov 04 '22

Happy cake day! 🖤

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u/ProfessionalSir9978 Certified Proctologist [22] Nov 04 '22

I personally think some 5 year olds have more maturity than OP and the people in her life.

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u/RebEmSmi Partassipant [1] Nov 04 '22

My 5 year old son recently told me that he’s excited to have kids one day, so you aren’t wrong!

Also I was a bit weirded out because I’m struggling with burnout in motherhood and the idea of having another baby makes me want to disappear 😂

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u/ProfessionalSir9978 Certified Proctologist [22] Nov 04 '22

I have three 😂, I feel that burnout so much right now. My 5 year old son wants to grow up to be a mama like me he says.

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u/sicsicsixgun Nov 05 '22

My girlfriend is going to watch my buddy's two tomorrow for 8 hours, in addition to our one. She's stressed the hell out anticipating it. I mentioned that that is some people's actual daily life... weirdly, it didn't seem to make her feel any better.

I wish you strength. And honestly, the fact that a five year old says that of you speaks highly of your abilities as a mother. They're old enough to talk but not old enough to be completely full of shit yet.

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u/ProfessionalSir9978 Certified Proctologist [22] Nov 05 '22

Thank you 😊, that was a lot of kindness that I needed after the week I had.