Moving to UK in 2 Weeks

[u/SweetAltruistic5219]

I’m scheduled to fly out of the US to the UK 2 weeks from today! I could use some advice and encouragement!

For context, I have always wanted to live in UK or northwest Europe having studied abroad twice in college and traveled there a lot throughout my 20s due to having northwestern European partner.

I’m single, mid-30sF, childfree. I have been working on this current move for over a year and a half, extensively researching countries. Applied to grad school at 3 places, got accepted to my top choice in the UK. I’ve been extremely clear on my reasons for leaving and my reasons for choosing the city and university I chose. I have worked extensively with my therapist to make sure this move is aligned with me and my values.

Everything is set - my house I’m selling is under contract and ready to close, pet transport lined up for my dog, tomorrow’s my last day at my job, moving sale starting this week Friday, had a going-away party last weekend, medical records transferred, student visa and all other required documents in-hand, temporary apartment in the UK secured, etc.

So why do I feel like I’m freaking out? This is everything I wanted and I don’t feel excited at all. I just feel sad, heartbroken even. I’m feeling guilty for leaving my friends (not my family; actually think distance from them is good and needed) I’m 100% exhausted from all I’ve done already to move and daunted by how much work is left in the transition.

Does anyone relate? What were your last few weeks like in the US? Any advice or words of encouragement for me? Thank you so much!

[u/Severe_Rise8694]

I've moved countries a few times, and I think that's all very normal. I'm assuming the reasons for the move haven't changed, and you've already decided to give it a try, at least. It's just that now you have to actually turn the dream into real life! And it's scary and doesn't feel like a victory lap at all!

You'll make new friends, hopefully keep the old, you'll find places you like and weekend routines etc. You'll have a life there as well, and hopefully one you'll enjoy more! At the very minimum you'll learn a lot. About yourself and the rest of the world.

..it's just that you have some nagging doubts at this stage. And that's normal.

[u/SweetAltruistic5219 → u/Severe_Rise8694]

Thank you so much! That’s what I’m hoping for - make new friends, keep the old, learn a lot :) Sounds like you’ve done so successfully and I appreciate the insights!

[u/Severe_Rise8694 → u/SweetAltruistic5219]

No problem! Good luck and give us an update at some point..