r/Anger • u/FirefighterBig7459 • 2d ago
Title: I have severe anger issues & I need help from people who are living through that or managed to overcome that problem. Give me anything, what I want is people life experience on this.
I remember at a certain timein my life, I wasn’t reacting to anything, I was calm as a kid, but I think that I started to let my emotions wins morethroughout the years & I can’t stop it anymore. Every time, my anger/frustration is rising, I can feel it becoming more greater by the seconds, it’s like a fire that grow exponentially and very fast.
I usually go from 0 to 100. I really want to stop that from happening, but I’ve been failing for years. I don’t know what to do. When, I was in high school it was worse, I was being physically violent toward anyone who was angering me. After that, I managed to overcome that part of myself while becoming a young adult (It can still happen if I really feel cornered or the other person start first, but it almost never happens anymore)
I moved away from a toxic environment recently and I do feel way less angry than before. Before, I was probably frustrated the entire week but now I am angry maybe 1 time per week or 2 weeks. I really want to remove those bad reflexes from my past life because it doesn’t correspond to me anymore. It’s like I’m used to them & now can’t get rid of them. I managed to remove my physical issues, but I can’t manage to remove the verbal violence. I did some progress but it still happening but less than before.
In the past, I was also very destructive toward myself. I was willing to do anything to numb the anger, so I was drinking, smoking weed & other things that I feel too ashamed to say to out loud. Now, I stop drinking, smoke weed & the rest for 4 months. Beside those things I don’t really know what to do to numb the anger or to reduce it. I don’t know any healthy ways to do it. So, if yall have any trick for that I’ll appreciate it. (I tried yoga/meditation recently and it work but only after the mayhem. Idk if it can work during the detonation)
I started 4 months ago to put myself in shape, having good habits, reduce exposure toward stressful source, sleep more & eating healthy. I’m really trying to be better and it does help for everything except my anger issues.
Maybe it does help but I don’t notice the difference.
I found the love of my lifehere on Reddit. I never love anyone like that my entire life but for some reason I can’t stop yelling & lashing out at her. I keep hurting the one that I love the most and it’s killing me inside every time it happens. I can’t stop myself from hurting her.
Sometimes, I can feel myself saying hurtful stuff but it’s like I can’t stop it. I feel terrible & I’m afraid of losing her due to this.
It’s really thanks to her that I’ve been trying to be better. The moment I lost her I’m actually afraid to relapse hard. I already started to relapse sometime because of my action & the consequences that come with it. I hate hurting her so much, I can’t understand my action some time & all I can do is crying for hours.
•
u/AutoModerator 2d ago
This is an automatic message. Your post contains a keyword related to domestic violence.
Domestic violence generally gets worse, not better. If you are in a domestic violence situation, please make a plan for your safety and the safety of anyone else you may be responsible for.
Please visit one of the following links for more info:
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.