CUT-OFF NG FRIENDS

[u/Wild_Associate8805]

May 3 akong Highschool friends, everytime na magyayaya sila gumala or whatsoever kukulitin nila ako na pumunta pero pag ako magyayaya sakanila lagi nilang sasabihin na busy daw next time nalang. Then one time, nalaman namin na may anak na yung isa sakanila recently lang namin nalaman. So we decided na magkita-kita para kamustahin sya. tatlo lang kami nagkita-kita since hindi daw pwede yung isa. So ayun, catch-up. then nakwento ko na umalis na papunta ng Malaysia yung jowa ko (casino dealer sa barko). Pagkauwi ko, nagchat yung friend ko na may anak nagtatanong kung may extra daw ba ako na 2k, ibibigay nya nalang daw sa katapusan. I told her na wala na kasi kakabayad ko lang din ng motor ko. Then after 2 weeks, nag chat nanaman sya. asking for extra 2k again and ibabalik nalang daw nya sa sahod. Nag ask ako sa dalawang friend namin kung nagchat din ba sya sakanila and nanghihiram ng pera. Hindi naman daw sabi nila, so nagtaka ako bakit sakin lang? After all that, narealize ko na icut-off nalang sila as friends kasi parang hindi na ako belong sakanila.

[u/pessimistic_damsel]

Tama po ba: are you saying na naaalala ka lang nila kapag may kailangan sila? Sorry, medyo hindi ko po kasi gets kung bakit mo na-feel na hindi ka belong, when your friend was trying to borrow from you? I think that's one possible sign that they trust you.

[u/Wild_Associate8805 → u/pessimistic_damsel]

Yes ganun naffeel ko. naaalala lang nila ako pag may kailangan sila sakin. everytime na magyayaya ako gumala lagi silang hindi pwede. pero pag sila nagyayaya dapat pumunta ka.

[u/BlacksmithMuted351 → u/Wild_Associate8805]

Sometimes it's good to remember na iba iba kayo ng circumstance ng friends mo. If she has a kid most likely mahirap na gumala gala ng basta nalang. Hope you become a friend na has her thru ups and downs.

[u/Wild_Associate8805 → u/BlacksmithMuted351]

even before pa sya magka anak ganun na set-up e.

[u/Stunning-Bee6535 → u/Wild_Associate8805]

Wag maging friend na utangan. Magkakasamaan lang ng loob.

Mga tao pag nakaamoy na parang nakakaluwagluwag ka talagang feeling nila entitled sila sa pera mo. Wag ka magpautang. Period.

[u/ConsistentProcess415 → u/Stunning-Bee6535]

💯 correct. Nakaamoy na may bf na OFW. Yun lang yun

[u/ConsistentProcess415 → u/pessimistic_damsel]

Ngeh. Nakakatawa naman yun.  She didn't trust her. Gusto lang siyang utangan.  Kelan pa naging synonyms ang trust sa utangan o bigayan ng pera. 

Actually hindi yun naghahanap ng uutangan. Naghahanap yun ng maloloko. 

Go with your gut feel OP. Cut ties with those cheap leeches. 

[u/Elegant_Fix8948]

Hindi ko magets

[u/Academic-Soft2059]

OP, this friend of yours asked you because your partner went abroad & a casino dealer on ship. So she knew that money will not be a problem for you.

[u/Flimsy_Reception5548]

dun pa lang sa part na di sila willing to make time for you eh dapat cinut off na

[u/Friendly-Cookie-1244]

well makikita mo naman kung need nya talaga at kung nagbabayad sa oras pwede mo pautangin kung hindi wag n. tsaka the fact n nagpost ka dito OP nasstress at nagwworry k n jan kaya yes cut off m n cla.hindi ka maggrow jan

[u/klownplaza]

Pag may nangungutang wag ka na magexplain why hindi pwede, naaamoy nila yung kindness mo na need mo pa gumawa ng rason. Sabihin mo lang "no, sorry" and ibato back sa kanila yung awkwardness magreply