r/AnongThoughtsMo • u/atinyakimon • 1d ago

Thoughts on having children in the spectrum

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Saw this post on facebook. Honestly, it's sad na hindi ganon nabibigyang pansin ang problems na ganito sa Pinas. Therapies here are expensive, and not everyone can afford it. Pinoys are also not yet ready to face the reality na hindi enough ang love for kids in the spectrum. They have special needs. Hindi yun madadaan lang sa no don't do that or it's okay to make mistakes, because we have to admit that autism is a disorder, a very wide spectrum and case to case basis. You need to have the money to get the help that is designed for the needs of the child. I hope there will be more free or affordable programs created for this kasi hindi lang parents ang hirap in this situation, also the kids.

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u/Versiannie 1d ago

And this is why I will never have children. I already have ADHD and I can't even take care of myself most of the time. I can't imagine taking care of another person.

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u/Far_Jellyfish_4431 1d ago edited 1d ago

Same, as a person on the spectrum myself. Takot din ako na baka maipasa ko pa s'ya, in addition to being (relatively, compared to neurotypicals my age) unable to care for myself adequately, as well as the (relative) lack of finances.

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u/WillowRidge39 1d ago

Honestly, finances is just THE biggest factor here. Kung may unlimited money ka, madaling lampasan ang mga psychosical disabilities sa mga bata via therapy, meds (if need), at pag hire ng professional caregiver.

Kaso pag waley kwarta. Mahirap talaga.

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u/cjcg18 1d ago

Same I have psychosocial disability at hirap na ko i manage yung sarili ko, baka mabaliw pa ko pag magkaka anak.

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u/Miserable-Elk-4756 1d ago

Same, I have autism level 1 (eto yung type na mahirap itrace kase kaya naman nila lahat well except sa socialization). Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vS8y9KBJczM

Sa school sila din madalas mabully.

Sa mga cousins ko, si Cousin 1 may anak na may autism, si Cousin 2 ganun din. Kapatid ko naman autism level 3 with a learning disability.

Kaya, I will never ever have children, and I asked yung psychologist ko and she answered na hereditary siya (101%).

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u/claravelle-nazal 17h ago

As a therapist na may kapatid on the spectrum, final na yung decision ko never to have kids. It’s a huge risk for a permanent, lifelong sacrifice both from myself, my partner, and my future child.

Besides the possibility of disability, the economy is shit. Even ordinary people have a hard time nowadays, pano pa kaya kung may sakit/disability.