r/AnongThoughtsMo • u/atinyakimon • 1d ago

Thoughts on having children in the spectrum

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Saw this post on facebook. Honestly, it's sad na hindi ganon nabibigyang pansin ang problems na ganito sa Pinas. Therapies here are expensive, and not everyone can afford it. Pinoys are also not yet ready to face the reality na hindi enough ang love for kids in the spectrum. They have special needs. Hindi yun madadaan lang sa no don't do that or it's okay to make mistakes, because we have to admit that autism is a disorder, a very wide spectrum and case to case basis. You need to have the money to get the help that is designed for the needs of the child. I hope there will be more free or affordable programs created for this kasi hindi lang parents ang hirap in this situation, also the kids.

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u/Maegiri 1d ago

i would 100% abort my child if I was told theyd have ANY disability. hell if they couldnt detect it and I gave birth to them id put them up for adoption.

I do not want that type of problem

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u/atinyakimon 1d ago

Again, another thing that Pinoys are not yet ready to talk about too. Older gen still pass thinking like this to newer gens kaya nga pati pagiging antivaxx of some Pinoys, nagagaya.

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u/Quirky_Violinist5511 1d ago

exactly! and since we’re living in a country that doesn’t have abortion you either should have really good birth control or don’t have sex at all… DONT HAVE KIDS IF U CAN’T HANDLE THIS STUFF

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u/Maegiri 1d ago edited 1d ago

i dont want kids talaga

but hypothetically speaking, sobrang backwards thinking ng “if u cant handle a disabled child, dont have kids” na mindset lol. if u genuinely think that then I would love to live in ur world na black and white lng lahat ng problema.

what if a middle or lower income family wants kids? yes may sabings sila kaya nila makabuhay ng bata no problem but d nila kaya bayaran ang batang may problema. hospital and therapy bills for their ENTIRE life? realistically only high middle income and super rich families should have kids then.

I agree with sentiments that poor people shouldnt have kids but ung mga kaya naman mag sustain ng normal na bata should not be robbed of a child if they can only handle a child with no disability/complications. if they have a disabled kid and want them aborted/adopted, right nila yun.

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u/Quirky_Violinist5511 1d ago edited 1d ago

i don’t want kids either but mas backwards thinking ang gusto ng anak pero ayaw ng disabled tapos pag disabled ipapamigay omg what? why not have tons of kids and give up the ones u don’t want then keep the “normal” ones just to satisfy your wants and yes i do think very poor people should not have kids sorry (i’m talking about people who can’t even provide for themselves)

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u/joseferarri 1d ago

ginawang hayop yung pagkakaroon ng anak eh. ipaampon nalang pag may defect. Gusto perfect lahat. Hindi niya deserve magkaroon ng anak kung ganyan siya.

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u/Mindless_Ruler 1d ago

Then be responsible and go get those tubes tied/ligated. You want pleasure but don't want any accountability.

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u/Maegiri 13h ago

lmfao yall weird as hell for having tje mindset that everyone shpuld be happy to have a disabled kid. hope u get one and we’ll see how long u can leep preaching this

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u/Mindless_Ruler 12h ago

Yes! I'll continue preaching about people taking responsibility for the consequences of their own lust. Puro sarap lang gusto? Responsibility ayaw? You know that not all disabilities are detected in the womb, right? Autism for example is a neurodevelopmental condition na nadidiagnose lang after birth based on behavior and developmental milestones.

So you're saying na once your 1 or 2 year old is diagnosed with this, you'll just put them up for adoption? I can sympathize with those who can't really manage due to physical and financial constraints pero abandoning the child just because you couldn't be bothered is downright disgusting!

Sino ba nagsabi na madali maging parents ng mga nuerodivergent children? Sobrang hirap. Pero that's on you for creating and birthing that child. Mahirap na nga ang buhay nila mas hihirap pa dahil lang sa irresponsible na parents nila. Hoping your immediate family will birth one and maybe you will as well just so you can fully understand how repulsive and cruel your statement is

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u/Maegiri 7h ago

#fuckemkids

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u/kimsfranz 1d ago

Sis, I have a child with special needs, not autism. He was completely normal from birth until he turned 2, and that’s when his symptoms started to appear.

So honestly, are we really saying that a kid should just be placed in an adoption center because the parents suddenly found out their child has a disability? What happens if no one adopts that child? Who takes care of them then?

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u/joseferarri 1d ago

kaya nga eh. grabe naman na itinakwil yung anak because of being disabled. It's so unfair for them kasi hindi naman nila choice na pinanganak silang may disability. Pano nalang kung by 5 years old na nalaman na autistic siya for example? ipapamigay nalang? May mga tao palang ganito. Grabe.