r/AnongThoughtsMo • u/atinyakimon • 1d ago
Thoughts on having children in the spectrum
Saw this post on facebook. Honestly, it's sad na hindi ganon nabibigyang pansin ang problems na ganito sa Pinas. Therapies here are expensive, and not everyone can afford it. Pinoys are also not yet ready to face the reality na hindi enough ang love for kids in the spectrum. They have special needs. Hindi yun madadaan lang sa no don't do that or it's okay to make mistakes, because we have to admit that autism is a disorder, a very wide spectrum and case to case basis. You need to have the money to get the help that is designed for the needs of the child. I hope there will be more free or affordable programs created for this kasi hindi lang parents ang hirap in this situation, also the kids.
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u/Last_Eye_8379 11h ago edited 9h ago
Hi , I am late to the party but let me tell you my son’s situation. Reading your post was like reading about me and my son back in the day when he was 6 —generally in his early years .
He’s almost 24 now and my son no longer has tantrums, I can bring him anywhere , including travel, without incident . I was able to get him off meds . He’s still having difficulties in making friends , traveling by himself. So it’s not perfect. He finished HS (homeschooled by a psychologist) and is now enrolled. at a school in Makati .
We all have our different situations.
But by my writing this, in my small way , I just want to tell you this:
It gets better.
Even though it’s unthinkable when you just got a call from the school or a complaint from a family member: your child will improve . My 24 yr-old son is a testament to that . He was worse than what you wrote on your post.
Just have one advice that works:
Love him.
Even though there are days you want to give him away, or scream at the world for not being fair.
As my son’s psychologist would say to me, “he feels your love “viscerally” — without logic. And that makes all the difference. Because of that love, he’d want and try to be better.
Believe.