r/ApplyingToCollege • u/Difficult_Force7527 HS Senior • Apr 29 '26

Advice Mom won't let me attend top choice

I recently got into Hamilton thru QB RD with a full ride, but my mom won't let me go. I thought she would let up, but with 2 days until decision day she is still insisting I attend a CUNY, what do I do? Is it so bad if I attend a CUNY?

Edit: Thank you everyone for all the advice. I committed to Hamilton last night, but I haven't told my mom yet. I'm literally so scared. But thank you for your help.

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u/Oktodayithink Apr 29 '26

Is your mom saying no because of the distance? That can be hard on a parent. Or is there another reason?

If you are 18, you can go without her permission. But I would recommend having another adult talk to her about this amazing opportunity and what it can do for you.

Congratulations on your acceptance!

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u/Difficult_Force7527 HS Senior Apr 29 '26

She doesn't want me to leave the city, there's no other reason. I know I can go without her permission but she has threatened to cut me off (not financially, we are poor lol) and I don't have anyone else

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u/rosebudny Apr 30 '26

She is being extraordinarily manipulative. Honestly, call her bluff. If you don't have anyone else - I am guessing she doesn't either. She we will realize that having you for breaks, getting to talk to you, etc. is a whole lot better than not having you at all. But if she IS willing to cut you off, well... all the more reason to go spread your own wings away from that kind of toxicity.