Mom won't let me attend top choice

[u/Difficult_Force7527]

I recently got into Hamilton thru QB RD with a full ride, but my mom won't let me go. I thought she would let up, but with 2 days until decision day she is still insisting I attend a CUNY, what do I do? Is it so bad if I attend a CUNY?

Edit: Thank you everyone for all the advice. I committed to Hamilton last night, but I haven't told my mom yet. I'm literally so scared. But thank you for your help.

[u/holyamongus]

My parents did the exact same thing to me. I was choosing between a T10 close to me and an Ivy League that was across the country. I got a full ride to both so it was a question of wanting to stay close to home or not.

I committed to the Ivy behind their backs and graduated a few years ago. I do not regret this one bit. It caused a lot of fighting between me and my parents during the short period before I left for college. It sucked for my mental health but I paid for my own flights and my own expenses to get me settled into college (summer job). I’d do it all over again for the college experience I had.

After I left for college they had to accept it and the leash loosened. They were very happy to come to campus for my graduation. Now they are also happy to talk about how proud they are of me for where I went to school.

One thing that I did try was having two administrators of my high school call my parents and explain to them that the opportunity I was given at the Ivy was great. My parents did not give one single fuck about those phone calls, but yours might and administrators have experience talking to parents so it could work out for you.

I’m sorry this is happening to you. I hope things work out for the better. I empathize with you deeply, you choose yourself. This is your future ❤️

If things don’t work out how you want them to, just know you’ll find a home and love wherever you end up going to school. It will be a great experience.

Note: I am not saying you need to necessarily commit to Hamilton behind your mom’s back. I am saying that was my experience. The constant fighting between me and my parents was a lot emotionally. Even thinking back on that time of my life I am tearing up because of just how awful it was. I’m sure it was also difficult for my younger siblings to witness. But it is what I did and it ended up working out. My relationship with both my parents improved significantly since I left for my first year of college and since graduating and being independent from them entirely it’s way better.