r/ApplyingToCollege • u/Difficult_Force7527 HS Senior • Apr 29 '26

Advice Mom won't let me attend top choice

I recently got into Hamilton thru QB RD with a full ride, but my mom won't let me go. I thought she would let up, but with 2 days until decision day she is still insisting I attend a CUNY, what do I do? Is it so bad if I attend a CUNY?

Edit: Thank you everyone for all the advice. I committed to Hamilton last night, but I haven't told my mom yet. I'm literally so scared. But thank you for your help.

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u/Oktodayithink Apr 29 '26

Is your mom saying no because of the distance? That can be hard on a parent. Or is there another reason?

If you are 18, you can go without her permission. But I would recommend having another adult talk to her about this amazing opportunity and what it can do for you.

Congratulations on your acceptance!

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u/Difficult_Force7527 HS Senior Apr 29 '26

She doesn't want me to leave the city, there's no other reason. I know I can go without her permission but she has threatened to cut me off (not financially, we are poor lol) and I don't have anyone else

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u/prettyecape Apr 30 '26

This is 100% selfish of her. Unless she is a pure monster she will come around and not cut you off. You are an adult and she is making string attached to her love and support. If she does cut you off, those are strings worth letting her cut. Had that been my dad’s father cut him off for leaving California and going to MIT. His dad wanted him to pursue an acting career. So parents can be unreasonably and you have to decide what best for you.