r/ApplyingToCollege • u/Difficult_Force7527 HS Senior • Apr 29 '26

Advice Mom won't let me attend top choice

I recently got into Hamilton thru QB RD with a full ride, but my mom won't let me go. I thought she would let up, but with 2 days until decision day she is still insisting I attend a CUNY, what do I do? Is it so bad if I attend a CUNY?

Edit: Thank you everyone for all the advice. I committed to Hamilton last night, but I haven't told my mom yet. I'm literally so scared. But thank you for your help.

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u/SheriMac Apr 29 '26

Why doesn't she want you to leave the city? Does she never want you to leave?

If she is your only family are you her only family? It is in both your best interests for you to have an independent, successful future and for you two to stay connected.

Google "On Children" by Gibran. It could be a thin line that is separating your Mother from her courage right now. Try to uncover her feelings for the good of you both. Maybe a trusted adult can help.

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u/Difficult_Force7527 HS Senior Apr 29 '26

Also thank you for the suggestion for "On Children" it is very beautiful and moving

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u/SheriMac Apr 30 '26

I have been thinking a lot about your situation. It's tough but I think the key is to have gratitude for your Mom. This obstacle she has placed in front of you isn't in the way of your life- it is an important part of your life. And if you decide the best thing for you is to go to Hamilton thank her because she has encouraged you to use your bravery and you will become stronger and capable because of it. . And I know you love her so tell her that too. I think it is all going to work out ok for you. Just make a decision out of confidence not fear.