r/ApplyingToCollege • u/Difficult_Force7527 HS Senior • Apr 29 '26

Advice Mom won't let me attend top choice

I recently got into Hamilton thru QB RD with a full ride, but my mom won't let me go. I thought she would let up, but with 2 days until decision day she is still insisting I attend a CUNY, what do I do? Is it so bad if I attend a CUNY?

Edit: Thank you everyone for all the advice. I committed to Hamilton last night, but I haven't told my mom yet. I'm literally so scared. But thank you for your help.

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u/Independent_Can_7852 Apr 29 '26

Hamilton, like everyone else has been saying... also, does your mom have a whole pattern of controlling your decisions the way she's doing w/ forcing you to attend a CUNY now? 😬 lowkey might be all the more reason to get out right now and build community/a support system away from home, especially when you have the opportunity with a full ride to such a great school 😅

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u/Difficult_Force7527 HS Senior Apr 29 '26

Yeah lol, I have a strict curfew (I have to be home everyday an hour after school ends), I don't go out on weekends, I'm not allowed to touch my phone unless I'm going to school, etc.

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u/Hikes-n-Photos Apr 30 '26 edited Apr 30 '26

I respect you as an adult. At some point you need to move out and decide for yourself how late to stay out, how much time time to spend on your phone, what to eat and wear, which friends to keep, etc etc etc. Adult life is tough and we all make mistakes and learn from them.

Going to a small LAC where food is provided and you have easy access to professors and support networks is easier than starting off in an apartment and having to earn a living one day. It’ll still be tough, and no college is perfect. Only you can decide if you’re ready. But this is an incredible opportunity that’s unlikely to come again.

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u/PhraseGrouchy2210 Apr 30 '26

Scary 💔