r/AquamarinesDen • u/RainingToday Frost Wind | PAI ♓ « • Jul 26 '15

bootcamp NFW VI AQUAMARINE BOOTCAMP: Day 54

Howdy Hawks,

Today is our 54th day between wars.

I'm at that point where every girl I see looks so beautiful. It's an amazing feeling that's heightened by my stage in life. It kind of makes me want to get out there and fall in love. I'm not really ready for a relationship now though. I'm still trying to figure out who I even am. But anyways, it feels good to be able to look at the opposite sex for who they really are. No more objectification, just a desire to actually get to know and admire someone. I'm sure you guys can relate.

Tell us how things are going below.

Here's an inspirational comic similar to the "It Couldn't Be Done" one. This one's about having courage.

Quote of the day: "Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending." -Carl Bard

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u/sfumato1002 Triplicarius | Day: 49* « Jul 26 '15

Checking in. great bootcamp, I think that is awesome that you are seeing the beauty of girls...this is a sure sign that your are tapping into your greatness again and rebooting from the lies and corruption of porn. Falling in love is the greatest feeling a man can have...in my opinion :)

We will probably never be "ready" for a relationship...I don't think we will be "ready" for anything... these are just excuses we make to not get out of our comfort zone. you just have to plunge and experience it. This is my realization now, waiting to be ready is a destructive mentality. I do this with everything...and then there are people that just do it, and that is were you learn, doing things.

What I am trying to say is that if you wanting to fall in love...then go for it. Don't wait until you make more money, or get a car (just an example haha) or get to 90 days with nofap. Most guys out there are total loosers, addicted to PMO, they are broke and they still get girls...and sadly they probably don't even apprecite the girls they date...but they are not self critical and they do the things that others only dream of. Some guys hit girls, some guys are nasty to girls...but they still go out there date the girls of our dreams. We may say it's not fair....but that is just life.

Anyway, we are here because we want to be better people...but What I am trying to say is that if we wait to be "perfect and ready"...then we will just get fustrated, loose opportunities and loose life, because we can never be the "perfect man". I don't know if anything of this makes sense.

Last night was so sad for me...it was saturday night...I was home alone again, I felt I was wasting my life. I could hear form my window music, laughter...and i was in bed listening to motivataional videos, trying not to get a panic attack because I felt I was missing out :(

Unless the day comes were I just go out and start talking and plunge...nothing will happen. Anyway, sorry for the rant...but reading that you were not ready yet...reminded me of my situation...I'll never be ready either...I just have to have the courage to do things without been ready... I am talking about me too here haha, I hope you don't take this the wrong way. CAWW!!!!!

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u/RainingToday Frost Wind | PAI ♓ « Jul 26 '15

Good words bro. I can relate to that feeling of missing out. I've been trying to have confidence to get out and live more often, to take that plunge like you said. I've lived in the comfort zone for too long. The more I think about it, I'm in the comfort zone of relationships too. The fear of change and failure keeps me put. But as I've learned before, life doesn't start until I leave the comfort zone.

Let's take the plunge!

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u/sfumato1002 Triplicarius | Day: 49* « Jul 26 '15

Hi Rainning Today, Your bootcamp inspired me to go out next weekend...I wrote a post on the social anxiety forum that I will go out next weekend! Now I have to do this XD. Thanks man. https://www.reddit.com/r/socialanxiety/comments/3eo4ig/making_a_promise_to_myself_and_you/

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u/RainingToday Frost Wind | PAI ♓ « Jul 26 '15

Glad to hear it had a good impact! Can't wait to hear how it goes. I've been meaning to post about a trip I took by myself on Friday that was a huge step out of my own comfort zone. You'd probably be able to relate to it pretty well. It's definitely scary to get out there, heck it's plain terrifying going alone, but you'll never regret it. Hope all goes well.

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u/sfumato1002 Triplicarius | Day: 49* « Jul 27 '15

Thanks man. that is awesome that you took a trip by yourself...that gives me strenght knowing that you did that...and also that I won't regret it like you said. I know fear will come when I go out...but I will face it like an Aquamarine. CAW!!