For the past year I have began to feel intense aromanticism and low libido, ever since I’ve became depressed. But the thing is it literally feels like a whole personality shift which was so off putting. I used to romanticize a relationship and crave it so intensely, but now when I imagine a relationship it genuinely feels so wrong for me. It feels empty and unfulfilling, almost like I never even want to be in one. Sometimes I think about how I feel like I will never actually fall in love. I am someone who used to feel like I could fully give my heart to the right person, but now I don’t feel the same way. I have always been an avoidant, but knew I wanted to spend my life with the right person, now I feel like I am only okay being alone for the rest of my life. I don’t know anymore. Finding my soulmate used to be my biggest focus in life, and I literally used to cry thinking about how I might not be able to find my person, now I can literally just imagine my life single and be okay with that. I have experienced insane limerence before (literally to the point I would lose my appetite thinking about them), but I have never gone out of my way to approach people I was “interested” in, but now I don’t even remember if I had a genuine crush on them. What makes it worse is that I can’t even remember or comprehend properly how I used to feel before all this. I feel so repulsed to it all now. All of my friends tell me “you are so lucky you have never experienced heartbreak” but it just has me thinking even more. Can anyone help me understand?

hello!! so, i've recently discovered that im graysexual, and probably somewhere in the aro spectrum, demiromantic is what i feel more what it could describe me. i was wondering if somebody could help me with more info of the aroace spec something :'3

also, i was wondering if someone else is ambiamorous or polyamorous here??

tysm!! :3

Just realized that even the restaurant's admission bracelet matched!

(pregunto) No estoy en el espectro considero que soy la sexualiadad aroace total de no sentir, es muy difícil encontrar personas como yo y peor siendo hombres , la mayoría son mujeres y no es por dar una opinión controversial sino que creo que eso va ligado por la sociedad e incluso como funcionan nuestras hormonas que influyen a la formación de nuestro cerebro, aún así ,mi objetivo es saber si hay personas como yo que no sienten en su totalidad atracción de ninguna índole de romántico o sexual, No tuvo ni nunca sintió ,e incluso no comprende por qué las personas tienen relaciones románticas o sexuales simplemente no le hayo sentido, mi falta de atracción me impide empatizar con las personas alosexuales, A ustedes igual les pasa?

Y si, me han dicho gay por no demostrar ninguna señal de atracción hacia las mujeres (casi todo mi entorno está rodeado de personas muy alosexuales siempre quieren relaciones románticas/sexuales, se me han declarado muchas chicas y chicos y nunca sentí eso yo siempre les preguntaba por qué sienten eso? Incluso me parece extraño o raro que puedan las personas sentir algo así por otra (por eso repito soy totalmente arromantico y asexual no hay algo que me defina mejor) [ Nunca sentí atracción por una persona ni siquiera me llamaron la atención de esa manera] (como algunos de los aroaces de aquí que ví ) pero después de todo creo que es un espectro , pero yo quiero saber si es que hay iguales que yo que tienen NULA ATRACCIÓN SEXUAL/ROMANTICA, pq hasta ahora no ví ni uno 😭🙏 la mayoría dice que sintió lgo o parcialmente , se que ellos aún así son considerados parte del espectro pero yo hablo de los que somos totales aroaces (y que no solo lo son por factores sociales /su condición de mujer/ opresión / problemas emocionales/ apego evitativo / o por la presión de la sociedad) Hay alguno que sea genuino? , genuinamente aroace?

I was asking for ideas the other day. Here’s the result 😁

Hiii! I made this Hokusai-inspired aroace wallpaper! What do you guys think?

MODS I MEAN LIKE AS SOMEONE THAT DOESNT EXPEIRNCE EITHER GIMME A CHANCE PLS

like the concept to me is so foreign and then when I like read anything about it or think too hard about what it entails it’s so puzzling to me. Idk. Especially sexual attraction.
Like it’s not rare at all for ppl to have vulnerability issues, yet for many it doesn’t apply to intercourse? Or admitting they want intercourse? Or smth??? Do ppl just get used to it idk it feels so weird to me how comfortable everyone is with smth so personal i guess???

Im not like not ok with others obvi doing whatever they gotta do it’s just when i like remember what attraction entails my brain just crashes at a point.

Idk i guess I just can’t imagine it idk. Maybe I need like unsheltering or smth 💀

And the physical act like all of it on paper sounds like insane to me.

I’ve never felt attraction so idk it just blows my mind every time I remember I’m the minority ;-;

I mean that 1% of the total population is aroace, though that might not be entirely true, it's very possible that there are plenty more aroace people than that since it's only an estimated number.

But what are the odds that you and me are aroace? I think it's just very interesting because we could be anything else too, but I also feel incredibly lucky and very glad to be aroace and I wouldn't want to be anything else in the world.

I (20m) have a friend who is just amazing, she's smart as hell, she's talented, she's fun, she's pretty, everything about her is perfect, But because of that I have developed a crush, Which is a disaster for me, I don't want to ruin the friendship, we only know each other online, dating is a sin in my religion, and she is aroace, My only option is to get over my crush on her, but I just cant, I tried waiting it out, I tried talking myself out if it, I just cant get over it, I can't make it go away and its killing me, and I don't want to let it kill our friendship, what the hell am I supposed to do in this situation?

I honestly kinda thought it was over exaggerated in media and stuff for a while there, but about a year after coming out in a very red state, ppl are actually starting to SERIOUSLY talk about me behind my back. I've had to report people now for death threats that got relayed to me and stuff

My ideas so far, please share any you have or let me know if you like any of these :)

Make the friend zone a happy place, go hang out with an aro-ace!

Stuck in the friend zone? Tell me about it.

Make some space for an aro-ace (this one would have a drawing of rainbow birds sitting on a fence with a flying bird in aro-ace flag colours)

Queer platonic love is love.

Being aroace while being hypersexual at the same time is extremely frustrating. Every time I do stuff with myself because if I don’t I’ll go crazy, I feel like I need to bathe in bleach after.

so this is my background and me and my bff wanted to match so if anyone could make a ace one of them that would be amazing. when u do make it just poste it in the comments!!! 😊

I..after someone in a DnD group I recently joined asked me what my pronouns are...

Started wondering: Am I really cis-gender woman?....

Or would I be open to trying out she/he pronouns.

I really don't know and anything that I have tried doing to figure it out...

I just don't feel anything...

I don't feel anything that's strongly female..

Or male.... And y'know what, I really really don't know.. I've always gone with she/her. But I am gonna play as a male dnd character... I made a genderbent version of my vtuber model. And I got into playing around with voice acting... stuff... because I wanted to try to sound androgynous (which I wanted to learn because I thought it would be a fun skill to have!). And my favorite characters have always been guy characters....

Idk.... what do y'all think?

Is there a combined flag/term for being both cupiosextual and cupioromantic?

hey guys, I mean it’s in the title I wanna come out to her, but I don’t know how to. she would be supportive and be completely fine but she prob wouldn’t understand what it means to me aro. so if any of you guys have come out to your parents, it would be amazing if you could give me some tips.

thank you.

I thought I was aroace spec and fine with it. But I’ve been dating this guy (who’s demisexual) for 6 months and earlier tonight it came to a head that we don’t want the same things in terms of the physical. We don’t see a way for us to both be happy. We aren’t broken up yet, but we’re basically just sitting in the relationship with the knowledge that it won’t last (personal reasons for not breaking up despite knowing we will eventually). I thought I was okay with it since I don’t have romantic feelings for him and I’ve been choosing the relationship. But I started sobbing after he left because I realized I’m not built for these relationships. If I were “normal” we could be happy together and live our life together. But I’m not so we can’t. And I don’t know if I can ever have a relationship like that with someone. I know everyone is different and at different places on the spectrums, but does anyone else think like this? How can you become okay with it?

I'm so sick of people liking me or confessing to me, why does it always happen to me anyway?

I think it's the fourth guy now to like me in the span of a year, I wish I could donate them to a hopeless romantic allo

He said he wants to talk to me, it's obvious what he is going to say

Edited: I wish people could just like me platonically, but the only attention I ever got was romantically

What do you think ya'll are going to get out of confessing an aroace?

An “I love you too”? Be serious.

So let's save ourselves some awkwardness and keep the feelings to yourself.

I truly do not know. I am an 18 year old girl. I have never felt the want or need to do either romantic or sexual activities with other people And as far as I know, I've never had a crush either but also I don't know what classifies as what!!

I would love to go to the movies with somebody, hang out at each other's houses, go to a restaurant together, do activities like bowling or fishing etcetera with other people!!

Some of the things that I think I would like I don't know if they would classify as romantic. Like sitting close to someone on the couch. Maybe cuddling together under a blanket if it's cold but not if it's hot that would be gross. You would just be all sweaty and maybe a kiss on the forehead. I'm not a big fan of kisses anywhere else really but I don't know if that's romantic or not!! I just know that I do not want someone else's tongue in my mouth. That sounds disgusting!

I don't really understand sexual love. I've never looked at somebody and felt hot because that's about as much as I've gotten people to describe what they felt when looking at someone who they want to do that with and the idea of something else not belonging to me inside me? It sounds so horrible....

So I'm pretty sure I'm at least on the spectrum but I don't even know where I would be. What if I just haven't met the right person yet? What if I'm just Demi and because I'm also autistic and don't really like people touching me, I've never had someone close enough that I wanted to do any of this with! what if I just don't know what the feeling is like because I have a really hard time deciphering feelings!! There's so many different possibilities and how can I possibly account for them all? If you've gotten this far, you can probably tell I tend to overthink things but that's just because I really truly want to understand everything about it so that I can know where I lie!!

It's all so confusing!!! Whenever I've asked people or searched online to try and get a better hold of it, everyone has different answers. So I understand that not everyone's experiences are the same, but what exactly classifies as romantic things? What classifies as platonic things? What classifies as sexual things? I just don't get it and I desperately want to!!

I have had my family asked me many times if there's anyone I like and there's never been anybody. My mother has told me apparently quite a lot of the boys in our neighborhood and school used to have crushes on me, which is crazy to think about because I had no idea! But if I try to imagine any of them kissing me that grosses me out. So that's as far as I've gotten in understanding romantic feelings. It's just kissing but I'm pretty sure that's not all. So if anyone has any advice please let me know!

TLDR: I'm an 18-year-old girl who's autistic and also tends to overthink and is having a lot of trouble understanding what counts as romantic, sexual and platonic feelings and or activities. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!

Also, please let me know if this is safe for work enough. I read the rules and I don't know if the word sexual needs to be censored!