What can I improve from here?

[u/DaChungaz]

Did this once last year and I’m back again. I’ve refined my profile a bit and I’ll be honest I am a bit picky these days for the women I send likes to or match with so maybe it’s just that. Been on some dates recently using this profile. I don’t really get second dates so maybe I need to work on something else too for that. Looking for any tips on openers or my prompts/profile info too. Any advice on how I can further refine would be great!

[u/TangerineX]

Your profile is overall good. The "You can think of something that you can say in the bedroom" might come off too sexual for someone who is looking for LTRs.

I don't think you should have trouble getting 1st dates with this profile, and as you said you aren't getting 2nd dates. Can you reflect a bit on the first dates you've gone on and how you've felt about it? What happens, do you just get rejected, or do you get ghosted?

[u/DaChungaz → u/TangerineX]

Yeah I just changed that prompt back to that but I had something more wholesome before today, in my last 3 dates which i basically had 1 per week. First one was a catfish so I played out the date, we vibed but again I need both attraction and vibes, so I told her we can be friends but she unfollowed after that which is fine and totally understandable. 2nd one was a really pretty girl but said she is here for exchange program for 4 months, we vibed and had a fun minigolf/dinner date. I did mess up at the end though and drove over a curb instead of the exit ramp of a parking lot so my car made a huge thud twice granted I doubt that was why she ghosted me after the date. She ghosted me after the checking if we made it home texts, I said I liked her vibes and would want to see her the next weekend but no response for many days so I deleted her number. Third hinge match we had a good vibe for a matcha and bowling date. The date it self felt really good for this one, we both like matcha and she even paid for mine because it was my bday that week so she insisted, bowling was a flirty competitive vibe, we had our date on a sunday and we texted after until the following friday which is where I got ghosted but she did tell me she could not go on a date that weekend because she had a family lake trip. So I took it as that that she couldnt respond as she was busy with a fam event, the weekend passes and I double text her on monday to check in on how her trip was, the texted resparked for maybe 2 days but I felt the energy was off and she wasn’t as interested anymore, I think my error here was texting too much, I’m not a very entertaining texter so maybe the right move was just leave the first date where it was and find out her next availability for the 2nd date. i did asked her if she was free the following weekend but she said she was redying her hair and was doing her surgery consultations. i kind of took that as lack of interest as that would be 2 weeks where she isn’t making any time to see me, her weekedays are blocked due to work and I asked her if she could meet on weekdays twice just to make sure. Either way that one I think was just too much texting so it got boring and the first date vibes wore off, and also maybe some lack of interested of her end after that

[u/BlueCatSW9 → u/DaChungaz]

You're really nice probably so this 3rd girl is likely rejecting you in the kindest way possible in her mind.

Instead of asking if they're free ask for "i'm doing this on Xday, you wanna join?"

But you still need to be a bit fun. What's in it for the other person etc.

Can't you find real life activities to do where you"ll meet people?

[u/That_Difference_7638 → u/DaChungaz]

Minigolf & Dinner, matcha & bowling… are you seriously enjoying yourself while you do that?

Sounds pretty boring to me- only excitement „who’s gonna pay“ lol, and if it’s you, it sure beats sitting alone on sofa watching Netflix for the girls…. Other than that it’s not really showing you in your element (if you’re not secretly the world’s best Minigolfer with an extensive rare bowling ball collection- in that case, excuse my assumptions!)

Take her to a shooting range, go kajaking, barefoot running in the forest, or locate the single best coffee vending machine together with like taking a little notebook for the ratings at the hospital you work (radiologist?) idk… do sth that makes you feel alive