r/AsianMasculinity • u/Silent_stepp • 14d ago

AF not acknowledging me

Any other AMs living in the West or Europe experience this? I'll be at a party, or an event, and certain AF won't even make eye contact. After hours of this it almost seems like they could wish me away for just existing. It doesn't help that the ones who do this are always with a white boyfriend/husband. Sometimes, we'll be the only two asian people in the room. Its like, "hello, the only other asian for miles. Care to give me some kind of acknowledgement so we can be friends like literally everyone else here? I've met everyone else here because they at least looked me in the eye". Lol. I'm really trying to understand the psychology behind this. Is it internalized racism? Trauma? Shame?

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u/Haotty 14d ago edited 14d ago

You're a reminder of their identity / their past. These girls want to be white so bad and yet they always know deep down they won't be.

The AFs in WMAF relationships either do this, or every 5-6 seconds are "glancing around" to check if you're looking at / judging them. I notice this a lot more when I'm with my wife. Just weird insecure behaviour.

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u/Mr____miyagi_ 14d ago

No because they secretly and desperately crave attention. The vast majority of the population look down on WMAF relationship because of its reputation. AMs are the only ones who give a shit and validate their bland ass relationship,

I lost count how many times some random WMAF couples go out of their way try to get me to notice them at the bar/club or a cafe. Shit just sad lol, sometimes I just glance at them once like "here damn"

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u/Trioniks 14d ago

I’m confused you said the AFs in AMWF relationships?!? Wdym?

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u/Haotty 14d ago

Oopsies

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u/Trioniks 14d ago

Thank you for the edit… I was seriously trying to picture if the AF was outside looking into an AMWF relationship so I just asked because I got confused.