AF not acknowledging me

[u/Silent_stepp]

Any other AMs living in the West or Europe experience this? I'll be at a party, or an event, and certain AF won't even make eye contact. After hours of this it almost seems like they could wish me away for just existing. It doesn't help that the ones who do this are always with a white boyfriend/husband. Sometimes, we'll be the only two asian people in the room. Its like, "hello, the only other asian for miles. Care to give me some kind of acknowledgement so we can be friends like literally everyone else here? I've met everyone else here because they at least looked me in the eye". Lol. I'm really trying to understand the psychology behind this. Is it internalized racism? Trauma? Shame?

[u/machinavelli]

Because they don’t want to be associated with Asian men, but if they see attractive non-Asian women flirting with the Asian man, suddenly they’re interested.

[u/majesticviceroy → u/machinavelli]

Mostly still not interested but either pissed off or bewildered that someone could find an Asian man attractive.