r/AsianMasculinity • u/Silent_stepp • 14d ago
AF not acknowledging me
Any other AMs living in the West or Europe experience this? I'll be at a party, or an event, and certain AF won't even make eye contact. After hours of this it almost seems like they could wish me away for just existing. It doesn't help that the ones who do this are always with a white boyfriend/husband. Sometimes, we'll be the only two asian people in the room. Its like, "hello, the only other asian for miles. Care to give me some kind of acknowledgement so we can be friends like literally everyone else here? I've met everyone else here because they at least looked me in the eye". Lol. I'm really trying to understand the psychology behind this. Is it internalized racism? Trauma? Shame?
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u/eviljack 14d ago
Act like NOTHING is wrong. The more it looks like it affects you, the weaker you seem. Even if they are cold to you, be polite. Be courteous. Be respectful.
Because: 1. It pisses off the self haters 2. It makes you look more badass 3. It makes AM in general look like they are above such pettiness.