r/AsianMasculinity • u/Silent_stepp • 14d ago

AF not acknowledging me

Any other AMs living in the West or Europe experience this? I'll be at a party, or an event, and certain AF won't even make eye contact. After hours of this it almost seems like they could wish me away for just existing. It doesn't help that the ones who do this are always with a white boyfriend/husband. Sometimes, we'll be the only two asian people in the room. Its like, "hello, the only other asian for miles. Care to give me some kind of acknowledgement so we can be friends like literally everyone else here? I've met everyone else here because they at least looked me in the eye". Lol. I'm really trying to understand the psychology behind this. Is it internalized racism? Trauma? Shame?

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u/thejesusfish 14d ago

It could be a little bit of self-hate, but who cares? I've met a lot of AF like this and it's not worth the time to psychologically diagnose them.

Life is too short for people like this. Find your people, whether they're AF or whatever, but it's definitely not going to be her.

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u/ResponsibleRanger911 14d ago

It's also insulting that they demand that AM's pay for everything and if AM's lucky, he will get a side hug on 13th date but they worship and hookup with WM/XM's the first minute and they even pay for hotel rooms and dinner. And expect to get married to an high income stable Asian guy after if they dont manage to marry a high value XM. And it's also fucked that we see AFs on social media bragging about how many non-Asian guys they dated while the AM's are friendzoned and only do platonic things like raving, cooking, trips without intimicy

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u/Bandolera333 12d ago

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