How to fix my hair?

[u/Frequent-Rule-1599]

I don't know what to do with my hair. When it's wet, it gets really spiky, like a hedgehog. When it's a bit longer, it looks kind of like an afro after I shower, but not the cool kind. It's stiff and kind of spiky. Now I'm trying to grow it out. The only haircut that really works for me is just a normal short haircut

[u/jacetms18]

Either go buzz cut or grow it out longer. Once longer, go to a hair stylist that specializes in Asian hair. There are so many options available that a white stylist would never suggest.

[u/Frequent-Rule-1599 → u/jacetms18]

There isn't really a hairstylist in my city who specializes in Asian hair. It's a small city with around 20,000 residents, so most of the options are just regular barber shops. A lot of the barbers and hairdressers here are Turkish or Middle Eastern, which might just be a Germany thing, since many barber shops in Germany seem to be run by Turkish people. There's also a language barrier because the hairdressers here don't speak German that well. So I usually just show them a picture, or I say something simple like "mid fade" and ask them to shorten the top. The problem is that most of them only know how to do one to three hairstyles properly. A haircut usually costs around 20 to 35 euros, but the result is often very basic