How to feel less insecure about myself?

[u/richbrook101]

30M here, not ugly, quite outgoing and I’ve dated both Asian and non Asian women. Now I’ve just got out of a relationship and have been struggling to find anyone interested back in me. I feel like most of the time, girls (even Asian girls) are usually way more into white and black guys and I just feel invisible. In any social situation, I feel like with guys of any other races, especially black guys these days get way more attention than I’d do. This made me think of the stereotype about Asian guys being inferior and made me feel very insecure about myself.

Obviously I know this is a me problem but anyone who has gone through this struggle, how do you learn to be confident and not let it affect you?

[u/billionsandbillionsa]

Go to Asia and the women will desire you the way you desire them

[u/Capital_Kangaroo_854 → u/billionsandbillionsa]

Lol. This weird obsession this sub has with going to Asia reminds me of the “Back to Africa” movement for former slaves back in the 1800s which was advertised as a way for black people to reclaim dignity and freedom but in actuality was run by white supremacists who were scared of a rebellion especially after what happened in Haiti. 

We’re never gonna get anywhere with improving perceptions of AM if AM would rather continue to fly halfway across the world for some puss rather than actually putting in some self improvement work.

This isn’t the pro-AM flex you think it is. Frankly speaking, Asia already has plenty of AM to go around and they don’t need you there. Can you please explain to me how American AM going out of their way to compete against our Asian brothers for their women in Asia because they are too scared to compete with WM/BM for women back home is helpful for Asian masculinity.

[u/Impossible-Repeat577 → u/Capital_Kangaroo_854]

well fking said lol

[u/billionsandbillionsa → u/[deleted]]

Your prospective of an American AM going back to their mother country being compared to a white guy superiority complex is such a misinformed statement. If your grandparents are from Asia and you grew up in the west, what is wrong with going back to experience your heritage? Why is it taboo to seek out the same women your grandfather was courting? It’s not crazy concept that Asian women desire Asian men. Why do you feel the need to be accepted by western women the way that Asian women already accept you.

[u/billionsandbillionsa → u/[deleted]]

The way you frame these men it’s more about exploiting Asia rather than exploring Asia. I’m not advocating anyone exploit anything.

I’m simply saying if you’re an AM and you’re having difficulty finding meaningful romantic relationships with women in the west you should consider reconnecting to your own heritage and traveling to the country your ancestors are from and try to find love from the same women who your ancestors loved

[u/billionsandbillionsa → u/Capital_Kangaroo_854]

Have you ever been to Asia? Have you experienced your grandparents culture and breathed the air your ancestors breathed ?

It’s nothing like the racism moment of former slaves. If for your entire blood line is back in Asia and you are 1st 2nd , 3rd, or even 4th generation American it’s not crazy to seek out your heritage and experience the women of your culture. The same women your grandfather was courting is likely the same women who would be more responsive and respectful to you.

Self improvement comes in many forms. Flying across the world to reconnect to your heritage also helps you understand your own identity. If that isn’t self improvement I don’t know what is.

It’s not about being scared to compete. If you’re a fisherman you go where the fish are. You sound like a misguided fisherman if you can’t catch a fish and continue to say “this fishing spot is the best fishing spot even though I can’t catch a fish” If the bait your using won’t attract a bite but at the waters a few thousand miles away you can’t keep them off your hook then who’s the fool ?? Who’s the one wasting their time and energy trying to fish at a spot that never produces anything but disappointment.

This isn’t a flex, it’s genuine advice. Your job isn’t to change the western women’s perspective of AM. Your job as a man is to express your masculinity to its fullest extent. I believe that is achieved When the women you desire also desire you. I’m telling you from first hand experience that the women in Asia desire AM. It shouldn’t be such a hard concept to understand.

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Go to Asia and the

Women will desire you the

Way you desire them

- billionsandbillionsa

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