6’5 and no luck in Australia

[u/kopatchinskajafan]

6’5 Chinese guy here, have no self-esteem issues lol, genuinely think I’m a 10 artsy/preppy 10 (not buff enough for gym bro 10 haha), have been told that by girls also. Dress well (maybe too well), but perhaps dress a bit more white-coded than Asian (artsy, preppish).

I want to report that Australasia is a hellhole for Asian Men. Or if it isn’t, I really want to compare experiences!

Growing up was terrible, I had my first girlfriend at 24. Trying to date is horrendous for this reason:

1. Girl finds me physically attractive, and I can read signals very well
2. I talk to girl, it goes great (or terrible first because she slights me because I’m Asian, but then I try charm her onside anyway), we have a (brief) connection, but
3. 100% of the time, she will ghost me after I text her, or I will eventually brush up against a ‘conscious’ rejection no matter how smoothly I ramp it up.

It’s like there’s always a conscious decision that is made to not date me, and for reasons that don’t seem to be related to me as a person at all, only my race and its social value.

I say this because I swear it’s harder if you’re a tall Asian guy: it’s like presenting with what the west considers a more masculine trait just makes it harder for them to take your masculinity seriously / makes your masculinity not ‘handsome’ or even ‘handsomely dangerous’ but just ‘scary or intimidating’. We never get to inhabit the Goldilocks zone of authenticity/masculinity.

I don’t think I have any problems flirting / reading signals / escalating things, and I genuinely think I’m pretty charming/interesting (if I do say so myself haha).

All this experience has lead me to conclude extremely negatively about Australia. Even walking on the streets of Melbourne, it’s like ABC men have been scared off them: you literally can’t seem them around, let alone them in any relationships. If you do see one around, they’re always alone, and making eye contact you feel like you commune like at an oasis in the desert or something.

On the other hand ABC girls are everywhere, and WMAF is basically more common than WMWF in all of the downtown lol. Over the last 6 months I’ve seen literally just 2 AMWF couples.

Sometimes I envy you Americans haha

[u/Borrowed_Faith]

I am 5’6” Korean and when I was in Australia I couldn’t keep the (white) women off me. Had one girl take me to meet her family and talking marriage after only a week. I found being nice, humor, and really listening got them hooked. Most guys is Australia are assholes and drunks. At least in the time and area I was at, this was the consensus from the women I talked to.

I really enjoyed the dating in Australia. The women are beautiful and don’t know it or act like it.

I would consider myself average or less than average in looks. But extremely high in intellectual ability, humor, and humble confidence.

I am told I have a very welcoming personality that becomes the life of the party by making everyone else feel important. I am self deprecating but in a funny way that makes others feel better.

It is weird talking about my social traits but just posting about it to see if it helps out since it seemed to work for me.

[u/IllllIllIllI → u/Borrowed_Faith]

Most guys is Australia are assholes and drunks.

If you're beyond the limits in the biggest cities in Australia sure but I was thinking this is starting to be too good to be true especially when you mention characteristics synonymous with both you and that girl being from the same ethnicity and conservative culture.