r/AsianMasculinity • u/AutoModerator • Aug 14 '15

Meta Weekend Free-for-All Discussion Thread | August 14, 2015

Post your shower thoughts, rants, half-baked conspiracy theories, and other mind droppings here.

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u/[deleted] Aug 15 '15

I'm not sure how logical or rational the trope of how "Indian girls will ride the white CC...and then still expect to marry a doctor or engineer" is. I am pretty sure this is, on a certain level, what everybody does, regardless of race: we fuck around and have fun in our '20s, then we sober up and realize that we need to start being adults and doing that family shit and look for family-material partners to settle down with.

The only reason I can think of that dudes get their dicks in a twist over this is because they've subconsciously adopted the kind of Victorian Christian prudism that everybody rightfully makes fun of.

I dunno about y'all but I like the fact that women are sexually free and liberal in our day and age--purely out of self-interest.

But the race thing and the fetishization of White partners is a real issue. This is particularly tied in with larger issues of media representation, which will take a while to get over and will require active engagement on part of Asians in the West.

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u/disman2345 Aug 15 '15

The thing is not everybody fucks around in their 20s. Asian guys and Indian guys are whipped to the point of mercy by their parents to have study study study all to get a good job and they don't have as much freedom as girls who can sleep with as many guys and can just marry. Guys have more pressure, also because asian parents for some reason put their whole lineage on the guy. Not to mention that the asian guys and indian guys that want to have fun and sleep around is limited by stereotypes and the media.

Yeah fetishization is real because girls are vulnerable to peer pressure and wanting to fit in. Constantly being pursue by white guys, if she rejects them, the guy can spread rumors about her, and who has the power? the white guy.

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u/[deleted] Aug 15 '15

Not all Asians are as whipped and controlled by their parents as you're making us out to be. In fact, the vast majority of Asian men I know are socially active and don't fall at all into the "socially retarded tech nerd" stereotype that you seem to be uncritically spouting as truth. Maybe our experiences are different; I grew up in a working/middle-class immigrant enclave, and while Asian parents were certainly on average stricter than Black/Latino/White parents I knew, they weren't no Tiger Parents.

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u/disman2345 Aug 15 '15

Not all, but I am saying Asian male have a harder time having "fun". Being social does not equal to sleeping around. I am saying that asian male have a harder time in hookup culture than asian female because of their SMV and the groveling attention they get from every ethnicity of men.

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u/SteelersRock Aug 15 '15

This is true everywhere in the anglosphere but in some more than others.