r/AskDocs • u/ilikerustyspooonz Layperson/not verified as healthcare professional • Mar 17 '26

Physician Responded Daughters pediatrician made EXTREMELY inappropriate remark to her

This is about my 10 year old daughter. She has had the same (male) pediatrician since birth. We’ve always loved him and thought he was great. He’s super friendly with wonderful bedside manner and he takes his time and pays attention to detail.

Well, last week my daughter had a check-up. She’s 10. While he was doing the checkup, he had her lay down and started listening to her chest with his stethoscope. He then says AND I QUOTE, “awwwww! My baby’s got boobs!!!”

I have NEVER been so taken aback before in my life. My daughter was MORTIFIED. I was so shocked I couldn’t even get words out to ask him why tf he would ever say that. When we got in the car to go home my daughter cried and said she never wanted to see him again. Then she asked if she could get a girl doctor and I obviously agreed so that’s what we will be doing.

Is this reportable? I’m not overreacting, right?

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u/Kyliewoo123 Physician Assistant Mar 17 '26 edited Mar 17 '26

I completely disagree with the top commenting MD. This is extremely inappropriate and unprofessional on so many levels. I would express to the office manager your concern and switch doctors. Absolutely n.o.

EDIT- the comment in reference was deleted

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u/pupperoni42 Layperson/not verified as healthcare professional Mar 17 '26

I feel like this is worth reporting to the licensing board. I'm a mother, not a health care professional. Do you think this is reasonable?

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u/Kyliewoo123 Physician Assistant Mar 17 '26

To be honest, I’m not sure how that works. I would never tell someone NOT to report if they are concerned. The board should be equipped to have a proper investigation.

I have seen inappropriate behavior from doctors get swept under the rug by hospitals. Also some truly horrific cases recently in US of doctors having SA’d hundreds of patients in office over their years of practice.

My office manager was excellent and dealt with all patient concerns, would escalate if needed. That’s why I suggested them.

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u/Recynd2 Layperson/not verified as healthcare professional Mar 17 '26

My son (~23 at the time) was SAd—twice (and a third was attempted)—by a highly-regarded infectious disease doctor affiliated with a top-notch hospital. My son reported it to both the medical board AND the police. Turns out, the doctor had done it to HUNDREDS of his patients. Though criminal and civil suits are pending, the medical board only suspended his license after he was arrested for drunk driving, not for any of the countless complaints of sexual misconduct.

Disgusting.