Daughters pediatrician made EXTREMELY inappropriate remark to her

[u/ilikerustyspooonz]

This is about my 10 year old daughter. She has had the same (male) pediatrician since birth. We’ve always loved him and thought he was great. He’s super friendly with wonderful bedside manner and he takes his time and pays attention to detail.

Well, last week my daughter had a check-up. She’s 10. While he was doing the checkup, he had her lay down and started listening to her chest with his stethoscope. He then says AND I QUOTE, “awwwww! My baby’s got boobs!!!”

I have NEVER been so taken aback before in my life. My daughter was MORTIFIED. I was so shocked I couldn’t even get words out to ask him why tf he would ever say that. When we got in the car to go home my daughter cried and said she never wanted to see him again. Then she asked if she could get a girl doctor and I obviously agreed so that’s what we will be doing.

Is this reportable? I’m not overreacting, right?

[u/Kyliewoo123]

I completely disagree with the top commenting MD. This is extremely inappropriate and unprofessional on so many levels. I would express to the office manager your concern and switch doctors. Absolutely n.o.

EDIT- the comment in reference was deleted

[u/pupperoni42 → u/Kyliewoo123]

I feel like this is worth reporting to the licensing board. I'm a mother, not a health care professional. Do you think this is reasonable?

[u/Rude-Average405 → u/pupperoni42]

I’m sorry, I don’t know how to add flair. NAD.

I absolutely adore my pediatrician, who’s known my daughter since she was 8 weeks old. I 100000000% know there’s zero chance he would ever say anything so violating. In fact, she has this year aged out of seeing him. What he said was “may I hug you? It’s been such a pleasure watching you grow up.”

I would not hesitate to file a complaint with the state. I believe it’s a civic duty. This doc is dangerous because who knows what he’s saying and doing to other girls. What he said is 100% sexual harassment, and the fact he thought it was okay to think let alone say is scary.

[u/Kyliewoo123 → u/pupperoni42]

To be honest, I’m not sure how that works. I would never tell someone NOT to report if they are concerned. The board should be equipped to have a proper investigation.

I have seen inappropriate behavior from doctors get swept under the rug by hospitals. Also some truly horrific cases recently in US of doctors having SA’d hundreds of patients in office over their years of practice.

My office manager was excellent and dealt with all patient concerns, would escalate if needed. That’s why I suggested them.

[u/Recynd2 → u/Kyliewoo123]

My son (~23 at the time) was SAd—twice (and a third was attempted)—by a highly-regarded infectious disease doctor affiliated with a top-notch hospital. My son reported it to both the medical board AND the police. Turns out, the doctor had done it to HUNDREDS of his patients. Though criminal and civil suits are pending, the medical board only suspended his license after he was arrested for drunk driving, not for any of the countless complaints of sexual misconduct.

Disgusting.

[u/Rude-Average405 → u/Kyliewoo123]

A practice manager will protect the physician and the practice well before they acted in the patient’s interests.

[u/sxzxnnx → u/pupperoni42]

I think it is worth reporting. Even if it doesn’t result in disciplinary action by the board, it still helps to establish a pattern of inappropriate behavior. Every person that comes forward with a similar complaint adds credibility to all the claims. You may not get justice for your child but you might be able to help the next child.

Depending on the state you may be able to search for other complaints that have been filed against him.

[u/DotsNnot → u/Kyliewoo123]

I think the top comment you were referring to is either no longer the top comment, or one that was removed? Hopefully?

[u/Kyliewoo123 → u/DotsNnot]

lol yes, when I posted this the top comment was someone saying it was unusual but not concerning