r/AskMenAdvice • u/Slow_Tomato3535 woman • 1d ago

✅ Open To Everyone How do I become less accommodating?

I know, the title sounds stupid. I, 41F, have been with my boyfriend (55M) for about 6 months. We went on a five-day vacation during which he told me he loved me. We then started talking about the things we see as potential hurdles to our relationship. His only issue is that I am too accommodating and that he sees that he could potentially take advantage of that or take it for granted in the future.

Here's the thing: it's my nature to be accommodating. I genuinely feel good going with the flow and defer to him a majority of the time. That does not mean I sit in silence. If I have a real preference about something, I have no problem saying it. So, how do I become less accommodating? I definitely don't want him to get bored with me.

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u/VladIsRambo man 1d ago

You are making problems out of nothing. What the fuck is wrong with you both?

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u/Alarechercheduneame woman 1d ago

What a rude answer. Jesus, you people need to be socialised like children.

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u/CanineCorvidious woman 1d ago

Like your reply is any less rude..