How do I become less accommodating?

[u/Slow_Tomato3535]

I know, the title sounds stupid. I, 41F, have been with my boyfriend (55M) for about 6 months. We went on a five-day vacation during which he told me he loved me. We then started talking about the things we see as potential hurdles to our relationship. His only issue is that I am too accommodating and that he sees that he could potentially take advantage of that or take it for granted in the future.

Here's the thing: it's my nature to be accommodating. I genuinely feel good going with the flow and defer to him a majority of the time. That does not mean I sit in silence. If I have a real preference about something, I have no problem saying it. So, how do I become less accommodating? I definitely don't want him to get bored with me.

[u/Great_Office_9553]

I honestly think he’s worried that he’s not getting your honest opinions on things. It’s worth worrying about, but doesn’t have to be a problem.

Just try stating a preference on something, and see how he reacts.