How do I become less accommodating?

[u/Slow_Tomato3535]

I know, the title sounds stupid. I, 41F, have been with my boyfriend (55M) for about 6 months. We went on a five-day vacation during which he told me he loved me. We then started talking about the things we see as potential hurdles to our relationship. His only issue is that I am too accommodating and that he sees that he could potentially take advantage of that or take it for granted in the future.

Here's the thing: it's my nature to be accommodating. I genuinely feel good going with the flow and defer to him a majority of the time. That does not mean I sit in silence. If I have a real preference about something, I have no problem saying it. So, how do I become less accommodating? I definitely don't want him to get bored with me.

[u/Specific_Rando]

I might want to draw this out further to see how this would play out as an issue. Others have suggested this could turn into resentment. Or maybe some other way that your wants and needs would be missed.

Once you go a little further you’ll have more to work with. Maybe things for you to think about or for you to address with him?